We know that setting rules is a way of educationally directing coexistence and behavior that we must all comply with equally. The rules will be applied depending on the personality, needs and age of the child and imposing them will be a matter of the criteria of each family.
To teach house rules to children there are always different and diverse tools that can be applied depending on the lifestyle of each house. They must be made to understand that their attitudes towards various tantrums must be corrected and make them understand that no one is more than anyone else.
How should house rules be taught to children?
Socialization is another important part in the education of our children, many children act by imitation, either having older siblings or being surrounded by peers. The rules imposed at home is another part to help their social development :
- The limits and rules that are established at home must be imposed by all parentsat home. Everyone has to agree, including those who later casually care for the child. In this way you will also discover and see what it is like to have limitations with each person and thus help you develop your personality.
- Punishments if they are imposed must be met by all parents equally. Hence, later there are conflicts in which the mother or father is more persistent in imposing the rules, while the other person is more passive in imposing them.
- The messages to be transmitted must be concretethat specify with criteria what we want to transmit. You cannot order a “do it well” if we do not specify that that good is what they have to do.
- The authority figure has to be firmand messages have to be conveyed calmly and politely. The messages can be given with affection, but always keeping seriousness and very specifically it must be implied that the imposed rule is not negotiable.
- We must set an example in the rules we impose. It is useless if they see us behave incorrectly, aggressively or break the rules when we please.
- A calm environment at home is important. A home full of stress, nervousness, with screaming and with little tolerant and uneducated attitudes leads to not being in a quiet home and therefore not finding respect.
- If punishment is used, it must be used correctly. The first thing is that the child must learn that a punishment will be imposed if a rule is not followed and above all it must be noted that physical and verbal violence can be used. Nor can we express our anger and put ourselves on the level of the child at the level of an argument. Nor do we punish them for no reason and do it because we want to.
- Do not give in to impositions. If we give in in our decisions, we get used to them being frustrated at not getting what they want. That leads them to not being able to control their anger. That is why decisions must be firm so that the child expects a concrete response.
- You can always give alternatives and negotiate. This does not imply giving in, it is simply considering that we can be flexible to any request from the child in an educated way and that of the guarantee that this pact is understanding.
In conclusion, a home without limits leads to children not having that sense of security . It is important for the child to observe their limitations and have an authority figure, in this way they will feel protected.
