How to refine your goals

2020 is underway and life is probably not that different from how it was in December 2019. Change is not happening so fast. It is easy to think that now is the new year so now everything will change, which it absolutely can but not overnight.

 

Did you set any goals for 2020? Do they feel like they are easy to understand and easy to grasp? I want to go through a checklist for how to refine your goals. By refine, I mean going from that big idea of ​​changing something or starting something new to that it is a clear concrete plan that you can act on. A goal is so much more than an idea.

 

Checklist: How to refine your goals

Something big and fluffy

Make it understandable

Why is this important to you?

Are there obstacles on the way?

Your moments

Scheduling

Your first step

Tell us about your goal

Celebrate your success

Realized dreams are anchored in the present, so what you thought from the beginning you may not really remember.

 

Something big and fluffy

Many times a goal is big and fluffy at first. You have a thought. You write it down. It is there on paper but still does not mean much.

 

The fluffy big is good. That’s really good. It’s amazing that it’s there on paper but now it’s waiting to be refined. It is waiting to become concrete, understandable and feasible. Words on a piece of paper are not a goal until you really understand what it means and how to do it.

 

The fluffy is your dream, your vision, the beautiful you want to do. Keep it. It’s fun to read when you reach the finish line. Realized dreams are anchored in the present, so what you thought from the beginning you may not really remember.

 

Make it understandable

What you do after you have written down the first thing you think is that you take it fluffy and big and reformulate it. You formulate it into a concrete comprehensible sentence.

 

Concrete means that it should be clear. In this case, please be clear. There should be no doubts about what the goal is about. Anyone should be able to read your opinion and immediately understand what it is you want to achieve without any help from the fluff. The fluff is often there because it gives a feeling of clarity.

 

Use words that you understand. Which are your own.

 

When the sentence is written, continue writing an explanation. A longer definition simply. It’s mostly because you need to formulate for yourself what it’s really about.

 

Anyone should be able to read your opinion and immediately understand what it is you want to achieve without any help from the fluff.

 

Why is this important to you?

Your goal is now understandable to you and to anyone who can read it. That’s really good. Now it’s time for you to answer the question “WHY?”. Why is the goal you wrote important to you? Why did you decide to do this?

 

Your motivation and your driving force live in your why and therefore it is necessary that you answer the question. If you do not know why, it will be very difficult to implement. Your why is what you come back to all the time during the process. Your why is where you anchor your goal and where you find your way back to the sentence when it gets tough.

 

Are there obstacles on the way?

Unforeseen things happen along the way or you already know in advance what will stop you from moving on. You may have tried to achieve this goal before. An obstacle is nothing to make a big deal of. It is affordable in most cases.

 

You can lower an obstacle so it is possible to cross and if it is not possible to lower, you jump over and sometimes there is a way around. But in order for you to be able to handle the obstacle when it appears, it is important that you are aware that it may appear. Being aware makes it all easier.

 

Of course, you can not predict everything, but just by acknowledging from the beginning that obstacles will arise, you have helped yourself.

 

An obstacle is nothing to make a big deal of. It is affordable in most cases.

 

Your moments

You have a hard time now. You have your goal and you know for sure why this is important to you. Now it’s time to draw the map – the road to the goal. You do this by breaking down the goal into several steps. What is part of your goal that you should achieve? You have an end goal but there are always steps within the goal you have chosen. What are these?

 

You line up your steps one after the other and can then see what you need to do and in what order. It will help you take the next step.

 

Scheduling

The goal is clear and the path to the goal as well. Now you have to decide when it is time to start and also set an end time. Your end time can be next week, in three months or in a year. It all depends on what kind of goal you have set. There are short-term and long-term goals.

 

Once you have assessed a beginning and an end, you set deadlines for the various sub-steps. The idea of ​​this is that you should see how much work you need to put in to reach your goal. You decide for yourself what you have time for so it is important that you are really reasonable with how much time you set aside. It should match your actual use of time in everyday life.

 

Your first step

You have your sub-steps and you have defined its content. So what is it you should do within each step. Now is the time to decide what your first step is. How do you get started?

 

No matter how pissed you may be before your decision to start your journey towards the goal, resistance tends to creep in so gently and a little from the side. You barely notice it. Resistance is often about fears, laziness, uncertainty about your ability or that you are afraid that the result will not be as you intended.

 

Be honest with yourself. You are not alone in these feelings. We all have them in different sizes. What makes the difference is listening to oneself but not staying in the cave into the emotions without accepting that they are there and then going and doing. The whole difference lies in doing anyway.

 

To make it all easier so you do not stay in the resistance is precisely to define your first step. What should you do to kick start the process? Is it possible to do it in a fun way? Maybe you can invite with your best friends as in a kick-off or celebrate the first step with a good dinner. That which fits.

 

Resistance is often about fears, laziness, uncertainty about your ability or that you are afraid that the result will not be as you intended.

 

Tell us about your goal

Having a network of people who support you makes a big difference. Someone who peppers you, helps you and maybe even accompanies you at certain times in the process.

 

Here you can once again make it all a fun thing. Add a party. Buy nice helium balloons, bubbles and invite your friends. It can be a combination with the first step.

 

There is never anything wrong with a party.

 

Celebrate your success

And you! Do not forget to celebrate along the way. Celebrate every time you make progress. Every time you turn an adversity into action. Each time you have completed one step and moved on to the next. Every time you see the slightest result.

 

 

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