We all want a better future for our children. Laying the foundation for success is easier than it seems. We figured out what you can do for this today.
Be an example
The biggest mistake many parents make is to think that their children will follow their advice only because of their parental authority. You can motivate your child to exercise with words as much as you like, but coming from a mother who doesn’t even have a sports uniform, they won’t sound very convincing. And vice versa, a mother who goes jogging every day naturally awakens an interest in sports in her child and instills such behavior as a norm. No one is perfect, but it’s still worth remembering the educational effect of your everyday behavior. Even if you are limited in funds, a child perceives material benefits much more easily. But he can learn, for example, hard work by looking at you.
Educate from birth
Whatever you want to instill in your heirs, start as early as possible. And no, we are not calling for hiring a tutor for three-month-old babies. At the very least, do not limit your child in activities you do together and find time for developmental exercises. For example, when a child grabs a rag while cleaning, let him “help” you, and during a walk, it would not be superfluous to mention that the trees are green and the cat is black. Basic habits are laid at an early age. Do not discourage interest in life with unnecessary prohibitions. Learning is a natural process, not hard labor, so encourage the curiosity of the young explorer from an early age.
Help plan
When a romantic childhood idea of professions gradually breaks down into reality, a teenager faces a difficult choice of what to be. And some continue to search for themselves after 30. Of course, you should not instill your desires in children and constantly repeat that the offspring will be “a doctor, like mom.” A dynasty is great. But if you want to raise a truly successful person, teach him to make a choice, and not to agree. Adults, no matter how you look at it, have a lot of knowledge about various professions and career options. Be interested in what direction your offspring is interested in, and unobtrusively offer options in the best traditions of info courses with point A and point B. Without help, a teenager may not even see the end goal, and why waste time?
Be kind
Your children should be confident in your unconditional support and understand that regardless of their decisions, ups and downs, you will be there. A reliable rear in the form of an understanding parent gives self-confidence, reduces anxiety, allows children not to be afraid of failures, and therefore, gain valuable experience. In addition, trust is formed, authority works due to respect, not intimidation.
Give us doable tasks
Teach your child to achieve the desired results with useful, doable tasks. For example, ask them to water the lawn. And don’t forget to praise them when the mission is completed. Focus on the result: “Thanks to you, the grass won’t dry out from the heat, it will stay beautiful and green.” This is the only way the younger generation can feel the taste of success: when the result brings satisfaction, joy, and an understanding of their own value.
Identify growth opportunities
To raise successful children, you need to provide them with opportunities to learn and acquire skills beyond the general curriculum. Instead of grueling extra classes in “weak” school subjects, a robotics club, volunteering at an animal shelter, or playing chess will contribute much more to success. The main thing is that the child’s eyes sparkle. The ability to do a favor for mom is definitely not on the list of top skills for future leaders.
Express love
Love is the highest level of empathy and trust. If you have managed to earn the trust of your children, you will not have to guess what is on their minds, and they will always be able to rely on you. And therefore, you will receive valuable advice in time, and not screw up. Sometimes, in an effort to raise successful offspring, we can forget to show love. If all the child hears is comparison with others and criticism for not getting good grades, it is time to reconsider your behavior. Instead of high results, you will face protest. Every child should know that they are loved simply for being there – then raising them will be easier.