How to Make Children Not Dependent with Parents

Here’s a CHAT from readers who need advice:

“I’ve been a grade 1 teacher for almost 5 years, which is still my homework now, how do I make children not dependent on their parents. Sometimes parents are still waiting for months. I teach at rural SDN. Please advise. Thank you”

Regarding grade 1 children who still have to be watched by their parents at school, it is not a special problem. That’s a common problem. Almost in every school at the beginning of the school year something similar happened.

Even children ask to be supported by their parents, not only in rural schools, sometimes in urban schools. Just different levels.

To overcome this, it is necessary to have good cooperation between class teachers, parents, schools, and the children themselves.

As an illustration, here are things that can be done:

  1. The teacher needs to understand the child’s condition, his habits at home, who he usually plays with, how the parents treat their child (this can be done by communicating with the parents);
  2. The teacher, for the time being, pays more attention to these children, invites them to dialogue or play games (outside of class hours, for example during breaks), which aims to arouse children’s confidence in themselves, as well as their trust in class teachers and friends. in its class;
  3. For these children, try to raise their courage, and develop a sense of pride if they dare to follow lessons at school with their friends, without their parents waiting for them. This can be done through dialogue or telling stories to the special children;
  4. If the children have shown their agreement to point 3 above (it can be seen from the eyes or attitudes of the children when listening to stories or dialogues, maybe they are nodding their heads), try to challenge them, when will they start learning in class with friends without their parents;
  5. Keep paying attention to the children and grow their courage and pride in the achievements they have made (small changes in the process) up to the time they have promised.

Note: For our school, we usually give parents up to three months to keep on with these special children.

So during the first three months, parents can still wait for their children (outside the classroom).

Children usually often look out of class. As long as they can still see their parents, they are calm. But when they can’t find their parents, they usually cry, and ask to leave the classroom.

We really have to be patient if we have students who need special attention. But with real effort, God willing, it will be successful.

The bottom line: children must be brave and believe in the classroom environment, at the same time they feel comfortable in the school environment with their friends and teachers.

For schools that have implemented an orderly admission of new students according to schedule, things such as mental readiness, age, etc. can be anticipated, so that it’s time to go to school, the children are ready.

For example: The Registration Committee can observe the readiness of new class 1 student candidates by conducting simple interviews (not tests), for example: asking for their name, father’s name, mother’s name, and the names of other family members.

What children like when playing, children’s daily habits, closest friends, and the like.

The purpose of this activity is to determine the extent to which prospective students are brave and ready to study in elementary schools. Henceforth, these observations can be used as a guide by the grade 1 teacher when the lesson has started.

But for schools in villages, sometimes the admission of new students is even done when the school has entered the new academic year. So that teachers do not have a picture of prospective students at all.


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