Confused about how to ask a girl to text? Dating by text can be tricky – ask too early and you risk scaring them. But take too long or do it on flirty texts and she might lose interest and ghost.
Approaching a Girl By Message
Don’t worry, you’re about to get the expert advice you need to convince her to say “yes!”
Recognize when it’s time to ask her out
She’ll likely want to meet you, so a good rule of thumb for texting a girl is to ask her out after each of you has texted 3 or 4 times. If you’ve acted directly on the dating site or the app, that’s all you need to reignite her appeal and make her feel like she’s ready to meet you.
However, this is only a directive. There isn’t a hard and fast rule, you just have to know how to keep a girl interested while texting. Since you can’t trust body language or any other visual cues, you need to read the cues she gives in her texts.
This is essential because every message exchange is different. And as you probably already know, tone can easily be misunderstood in a text.
But here are some generally reliable signs that she would be receptive to speaking in person:
If she’s giving you signs she doesn’t totally feel it (for example, a one- or two-word response or a response time of over 24 hours), here are some ways to get the conversation going in the right direction:
Ask her for something she likes. For example, mentioning your pets works like a charm. A message like “I forgot to ask about this cute little dog in your photo. If I give you a quick call, can you put me on the phone with him / her? »Usually resumes the text exchange.
Mirror her texting style. For example, if she uses acronyms like “lol” and “wyd”, do the same. It’s a subtle change, but effective, as studies have shown people to feel more comfortable with people who remember themselves.
Make her smile. For the majority of women, a sense of humor is a must in a potential partner. If you don’t get a response, try sending a funny text like this: “Hey, how are you? Hope you weren’t kidnapped. If you have any, set up a smoke signal so I can put on my cape and tights and come to the rescue!
Avoid ending your sentences with a period. Studies show that ending sentences, especially short ones, with a period are seen as insincere and unfriendly when it comes to texting. Remove the dots or use other punctuation marks or emojis instead.
Asking a Girl to Text – The Right Way
You can just bluntly send “Do you want to meet for a date?” While you’re texting a girl, but it’s the text equivalent of leaving her in the hallway and showing, “You wanna go to prom?”
Of course you asked the question. But you could have been so much sweeter about it.
Sometimes the best thing to do is move the text conversation in the right direction before suggesting a meeting.
Get her in the right frame of mind by saying something like, “So what kind of trouble are you having this weekend?” Or “Do you have any plans in the works for later this week?”
If you feel like her schedule is already busy, you might want to temporarily not suggest a reunion or see if she’s on time the following week.
On the other hand, if she is not yet certain or if she only talks about her plans for Saturday, go as close as possible.
Keep planning messages short and to the point. Fun and flirty texting works great when trying to create an attraction, but you don’t want to accidentally blow it up when you’re * that close *.
Don’t Forget To Follow
Up Just got some great examples of how to ask a girl on a date with text – but your job isn’t done yet.
You should always send a confirmation message, especially if you set the date a few days ago. Send a brief reminder approximately 3 to 6 hours before the meeting time.
If she doesn’t say yes…
All is not lost. If you get an uncertain “I’m not sure” response, you need to exchange a few more messages to increase the confidence level.
But remember, once 2 or 3 posts go unanswered, it’s time to write it down and move on.
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