To make a good impression and win over your interlocutor, avoid these annoying mistakes.
1. Too high expectations
Naturally, you are looking forward to meeting a nice person. But don’t expect to start building a future together right away. Don’t joke about your life together at the very beginning of the evening. Don’t make loud statements about the character of the interlocutor when you know almost nothing about him. “I think you’ll be a good father/mother” is definitely not the phrase you want to hear on a first date.
2. Mentioning old grievances
Everyone has had some bad experiences. But don’t share old grievances on first dates. You can talk about them with a therapist, but not with a potential partner. If all conversations revolve around how insidious love is, the other person will be wary and close off.
3. Talking about politics
The world is in a very tense situation right now. But don’t dive right into a political debate. Consider whether you can talk about it calmly. If it’s important to you to weed out people with opposing political views, wait until the second date . If you’re really itching to talk about it, at least let your interlocutor finish his first glass in peace.
4. Self-obsession
A good conversation means that you both listen to each other, ask questions, and share things about yourself. But often one person gets so caught up in their own story that they forget to ask questions. Maybe they want to impress by listing their accomplishments. Maybe they don’t think the other person’s opinion is worth listening to.
Don’t make this mistake again. Ask questions and listen to the answers. This way you will make a good impression and learn more about your new acquaintance.
5. Closed-mindedness
Some people find it difficult to talk about themselves, but without it, the conversation will be one-sided. Be sure to share something. Some will immediately turn the conversation back to themselves. And some will be glad that they don’t have to look for a topic for conversation. For example, when there is an awkward pause, talk about your interests and hobbies.
6. Excessive persistence
If you are ready for sex after the first date, do not pressure your interlocutor. No one will be comfortable with someone who does not understand the word “no”. Be confident, but take rejection calmly. This behavior seems the most attractive.
7. Vague intentions
Everyone expects something different from a date. As a result, misunderstandings often arise. Say what you want at the beginning of the meeting. You don’t have to say it instead of greeting, but don’t drag it out. Be honest about what you’re looking for now: casual sex, a serious relationship, or friends with benefits .
8. Obsession
Let’s say you liked each other and decided to meet again. Behave naturally. Agree on a time and wait for the appointed day. Don’t write a hundred messages a day, don’t add each other as friends on all social networks and don’t send your spicy photos. Such behavior will end with your new acquaintance refusing a second date.