Does the gynecologist embarrass you? The answers to your doubts

Sometimes going to the gynecologist after 50 forces you to come out just when you don’t want to. And then a series of doubts can assail you to which we can answer.

In this post we will talk about:

  • Gynecological examination: is hair removal important?
  • Sexy or chaste underwear?
  • Why is the most embarrassing medical examination always the one at the gynecologist?
  • Embarrassment can silence some symptoms, such as those of Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy
  • Does the gynecological examination seem embarrassing to you? Here are some tips
  • If you’re not comfortable with your gynecologist, you can ask for a second opinion

When you are over 50, visiting the gynecologist should be a good , periodic habit that you should have grown accustomed to over the years. For the sake of prevention, in fact, every woman from the age of 20 should undergo an annual check-up, complete with pap smears and ultrasound .

Yet, for many ladies, the visit to the gynecologist continues to be a moment of embarrassment and tension. Especially when, with advancing age and the approach of menopause , the moment of uncovering could cause more and more discomfort.

Intimate nudity can cause embarrassment and shame especially if you have so many doubts connected with it that fill you with questions. An example? Hair removal (is it okay or not okay to be seen like this?), The underwear worn, the physical conformation, some scars (perhaps those of childbirth).

We will take care of dissolving them, answering all the questions about the visit to the gynecologist that you are probably ashamed to do.

Gynecological examination: is hair removal important?

I challenge anyone who reads not to have had this doubt at least once: whether you are one of those who love total hair removal, or the other way around , when the appointment with the gynecologist arrives the question that circulates in your head is always the same. “Will it be okay?”. A futile doubt regarding the reason for the visit .

Being in “order” and having a well-groomed appearance is important to yourself, as well as respecting the basic hygiene rules . It is a way to feel good in your own skin. This is even more important in the period of menopause , when changes in the body can be experienced with some difficulty and could lead to neglect of the physical aspect.

Whether and how much to depilate the private parts is a completely personal matter : every woman has her own habits in terms of waxing (or other hair removal systems), which can also change in the mature age. There is no rule to respect: it must be remembered that the gynecologist is a doctor and as such deals with issues related to the health of the woman, he will not pay attention to these details at all .

So: from an aesthetic point of view, feel free to treat your hair removal as you like .
From a purely medical point of view, however, it is right that you know that pubic hair has a protective function of the skin and the vulvar area In menopause, when the walls of the vulvar mucosa become more vulnerable and delicate, it could be good practice to avoid so-called “full bikini” hair removal.

Sexy or chaste underwear?

Wearing suitable underwear and comfortable clothes to take off is, however, important to prevent the time to undress from becoming even more uncomfortable than it already is psychologically. You can opt for comfortable pants and shoes so that you don’t have to walk in heels while, undressed in the lower body, you go from the locker room to the gynecological table. If you want to feel more covered on this ride, wear a long blouse or shirt .

You can also choose a skirt, especially in summer, so all you have to do is take off your underwear.

In the choice of underwear, we remind you that the gynecologist will not see what you are wearing , so – also in this case, as in that of hair removal – you can continue to choose what makes you feel better.

What is appropriate is to put some hygienic protections (panty liners or sanitary napkins) in the bag in case, after the visit, bleeding occurs . Especially in menopause, and in the case of Atrophy Vaginal vulva , the losses can be frequent .

Why is the most embarrassing medical examination always the one at the gynecologist?

Dreaded questions about sexuality and possible dysfunctions, about the intimacy that changes due to menopause , dealing with embarrassing discomforts (such as prolapses ) that can make everyday life difficult, showing oneself in one’s most intimate nudity: it is like throwing down defenses and getting naked not only physically, but also psychologically. For many women this can be difficult to cope with.

Of course this is not the rule, there are many women who face the gynecological examination with tranquility , without anxiety and aware that it is a necessary medical check, neither more nor less than a blood sample. They are not super-women, nor do they have a superficial attitude towards their intimacy, the opposite: they are women who have confidence with their body and are aware that the advantage of visiting is greater than that of giving in to anxiety.

Embarrassment can silence some symptoms, such as those of Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy

The embarrassment of many women can lead to silence some important symptoms , such as those concerning the sexual sphere or intimate discomfort and discomfort . This is why there is still little talk of Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy , a chronic and progressive pathological condition that causes a thinning of the vulvar tissues making them more fragile and less elastic and that affects 1 in 2 women in menopause.

This happens precisely because the symptoms of Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy create embarrassment in daily life because they cause itching, burning, bleeding and even more in intimacy, making intercourse painful , if not impossible. All issues that, if you do not have a good confidence with yourself and your gynecologist, become difficult to describe with the right words .

On the contrary, it is necessary to overcome this state of shame because   menopause should not be suffered : taking care of yourself periodically entrusting yourself to an expert gynecologist means living a menopause in health and serenity.

Does the gynecological examination seem embarrassing to you? Here are some tips

To try to shake off certain embarrassments you must always remember the real reasons why you go to the gynecologist:

  • find a solution if you have any intimate problem
  • get a diagnosis if you suffer from certain disorders
  • have precise answers if you ask yourself questions or have doubts that you cannot answer
  • undergo a preventive screening (it is essential to preserve your health)
  • dispel your fears and anxieties if some intimate annoyance alarms you
  • find your peace of mind if you are worried because you notice that something is wrong

This means that in order to have the maximum benefit from meeting the specialist it is essential to become an ally of your gynecologist rather than “fear” him.

  • Make an effort to have a conversation that is as direct and honest as possible with the doctor. Keep in mind that there are no inappropriate words: the gynecologist knows how to understand them .
  • Talk to him without shame or embarrassment about why you are sitting in front of his desk (a gynecological examination always starts with an interview). This can make the difference to provide the specialist as many elements as useful to formulate a correct diagnosis and, consequently, identify a treatment that is suitable for you. In one word: help you.
  • Do not feel judged : sexual health is everyone’s right and an experienced gynecologist in menopause will not judge your need to fully experience your sexuality even in menopause .
  • If the visit to the gynecologist embarrasses you, try to involve your partner : it can also be a way to strengthen complicity and talk about intimacy, rediscovering the agreement in menopause .

If you’re not comfortable with your gynecologist, you can ask for a second opinion

Often the choice of the gynecologist takes place without a real previous research: it is that of the mother, the friend, the one closest to home or of whom we speak well. These are reasons that bring the choice of the professional to whom to entrust your intimate health to “chance” .

But this is not always satisfactory from the point of view of the relationship that is established. It is not certain that – since the gynecologist is good – you must necessarily be happy with him.

Know that you need to feel free to change, or just ask for a second opinion . There are many gynecologists, there are many specialized in menopause problems.


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