Would you like to be happier than you are? You may simply have to change the way you see things, because the same thing happens with happiness as with glasses: you look for them and you look for them and it turns out that you are wearing them. That is why I am telling you how you can organize yourself to have a more satisfying life where your priority is love for yourself, life and the people you love, so that, if you are capable of loving the simple, the human and the small details, then you will achieve the happiness you seek. Do you dare to put it into practice?
But the difficulty that we find ourselves on a daily basis is that we live in a society in which we are bombarded with messages of happiness and positivism, in which we are surrounded by stimuli that show us happy people, such as advertisements for ideal families in which all members are happy, with the aim of making you believe that by acquiring the latest of the latest of any product you will be happy.
But the reality is different, since there is no secret to achieve happiness, because happiness is a state of mind that depends on many factors, so that many times throughout your life you have gone through stages in which that you think you have everything to be happy, a good job, friends, a family that loves you, etc., and yet you have the feeling that something is wrong, you feel empty and you don’t really understand why you can’t find a apparent reason, so that you feel a sadness that does not let you be happy and that you do not have full happiness.
If this is currently one of your feelings, I have to tell you that being happier is in your hands, and you just need to know the necessary tools and put a pinch of motivation , a good dose of effort and a little time to achieve it.
Being happy involves having a well-furnished value system, focusing on the present moment, loving yourself unconditionally, and knowing how to appreciate what you already have.
Content of this topic
- WHAT IS HAPPINESS?
- OBSTACLES TO ACHIEVING HAPPINESS WHAT PREVENTS YOU FROM BEING HAPPY?
- WHERE TO FIND HAPPINESS?
- HOW TO GET HAPPY? KEYS TO BREAK DOWN THE BARRIERS THAT PREVENT YOU FROM BEING HAPPY
- HOW DOES HAPPINESS INFLUENCE HEALTH AND HOW DOES PSYCHOLOGY HELP YOU?
- Don’t miss my tips!
WHAT IS HAPPINESS?
We have to be clear that happiness is something very difficult to define since it is something abstract and subjective, so that there may be different concepts of happiness since if you ask several people what happiness is, the answer of each of them those people usually has a different meaning, but what is clear is that it seems to be the most coveted treasure of our times, what all people aspire to. While we all agree that we want to be happy, each one applies their own recipe to achieve that goal.
Clearly it is not the situation, the context or what you have to live, what determines whether you feel more or less happy. Happiness is not born from any achievement, from a partner, from a child or from a house on the beachfront, these are external elements that can accompany your happiness, but may not provide it directly to you.
Being happy involves having a well-furnished value system, focusing on the present moment, loving yourself unconditionally, and knowing how to appreciate what you already have. So that happiness is about an integral well-being constituted by several plots: spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational and emotional well-being.
The ideal to achieve this would be to diversify, that is, not to put all your happiness in a single area, so that if you do badly in any of them, you have others in which to find happiness and in this way a balance will be maintained and you will continue to maintain your level of satisfaction and happiness.
Summarizing, one could say that happiness is like a state in which you feel peace, serenity and tranquility, which allows you to live your life with satisfaction and this level of satisfaction with life in general, despite the difficult situations that sometimes arise. present to you, is what will determine how happy you are.
To achieve your happiness it is necessary to know what prevents you from moving forward, it is usually about very common attitudes that become obstacles, obviously getting in the way of achieving a state of well-being
OBSTACLES TO ACHIEVING HAPPINESS WHAT PREVENTS YOU FROM BEING HAPPY?
To achieve your happiness it is necessary to know what prevents you from moving forward, usually it is about very common attitudes that become obstacles, obviously getting in the way of achieving a state of well-being, the reasons can be innumerable, but there are a series of factors that they hinder and become the enemies of your happiness.
Specifically, there are four, although our mind has a lot to do with all of them, normally these are the most common reasons that prevent you from being happy:
- Strive to be happy
Getting obsessed with achieving happiness can be one of the most obvious obstacles to achieving it, this happens when you are happy but at the same time you yearn for more happiness than you have achieved. This favors unhappiness and discomfort, and prevents you from enjoying the happiness and well-being that you already possess. What comes to being not being happy with what you have and constantly wanting what others have.
So the first step you need to take to feel more happiness is precisely not to insist on looking for that happiness, since when you demand of yourself that you must be happy it can lead you to obsession and this will fill you with anxiety and despair .
- Getting frustrated all the time
At the moment that a person lives, there is a probability of being frustrated by a difficult task, a lack, an obstacle, a disappointment,… and all of this is part of daily life. Being alive is a constant challenge in which to face the most varied personal situations, as life is full of pleasant and unpleasant experiences accompanied by both positive and negative emotions. Seeing personal goals truncated is common, and when things do not go as expected, frustration appears.
People with a low tolerance for frustration are very tedious, they have difficulties managing their emotions, which leads them to be angry all day. They tend to be very impulsive and impatient people, very demanding and need everything to happen immediately, and when this is not the case, they respond impulsively and aggressively.
The important thing is not to let yourself be carried away by intense emotions such as sadness , anger, anger, rage, rage… If you feel this intensity, this rage, have the ability to isolate yourself from others so as not to hurt them until you feel it. pass, it is having a good management of emotions that can lead you to feel pleasant emotions that bring you closer to happiness.
- Living dominated by desire
The desire to aspire to a better job, a better house or a better life is the general trend to which today’s society drags us, so that if you live governed by desire, this prevents you from appreciating what you have and therefore you It moves you away from happiness and leads you to anxiety and depression , since you focus more on what you lack and in turn ignoring all the good things you have, and the result is dissatisfaction, unhappiness and discomfort.
- Relying too much on resilience
Resilience is the human capacity to flexibly assume extreme situations, overcome them and come out stronger as a person. Sometimes we overestimate that capacity and take it for granted that all individuals have a capacity to react to manifest adversity, when in reality this is determined by various factors. Hence, when someone fails to overcome a certain circumstance in the fleeting way that society expects, feelings of sadness, frustration or disappointment with oneself may arise for thinking that things are not being done well.
These are the 4 main obstacles that can prevent you from being happy, but do you already know where you can find happiness?
Imagine yourself on your deathbed when you are about to die, will you remember the material things you leave behind? Probably not. What you will remember are the experiences lived with your friends, the moments with your family, or the mojito that you drank in the middle of the afternoon in summer while watching the sea.
WHERE TO FIND HAPPINESS?
As we mentioned at the beginning of the post, the society in which we have had to live has distorted the compass that leads us to happiness, in such a way that they want us to believe that happiness is outside of people. But the reality is that happiness does not have to be sought because it does not exist anywhere that implies a search. That is to say, it is not out there, if this were the case, there would be two types of people: the rich who lead an enviable life and are happy and those who lack everything and are unhappy, but this is not the reality.
Many times the happiest are the people who have less on a material level, and this is because they get used to valuing everything they have, to living with less and over time they end up needing less. So these types of people are happy because they have their basic needs covered, and thus they can focus their attention on the small pleasures that they already have in their lives and do not get carried away by other gratifications that are ephemeral and that lead them to consumerism. having more than what is needed to live.
A clear example would be that you imagine yourself on your deathbed, at that moment in which you are about to die, will you remember the material things you leave behind? Probably not. What you will remember are the experiences lived with your friends, the moments with your family, or the mojito that you drank in the middle of the afternoon in summer while watching the sea.
Seen in this way, happiness is within you and it has nothing to do with those peaks of joy that you can have when buying, for example, a next-generation mobile, since in a short time you will need to have something else to give you that dose of supposed happiness that you think you need.
You are wrong if you think that when you get what you want then you will be happy, because it becomes the whiting that bites its tail, that is, you enter a vicious circle in which if you are not happy with what you have, you will hardly be when you do. get. Getting what you want gives you a peak of joy that will last a few hours, a few days, maybe weeks… then you will return to your normal state.
So in order to be happy, an effort on your part is necessary, which will be aimed at changing your philosophy of life, stop complaining excessively, and adopt a cheerful look at life. Being aware of how you can find happiness in yourself, in the life you already have, because happiness is in your hands and not in what happens outside or in having many things.
Now that you know where happiness is, you have to know that maintaining it requires training, you have to work on it like sport.
HOW TO GET HAPPY? KEYS TO BREAK DOWN THE BARRIERS THAT PREVENT YOU FROM BEING HAPPY
Now that you know where happiness is, you have to know that maintaining it requires training, you have to work on it daily like when you play sports. For this, I leave you six tips that can serve as a guide to find your happiness and to feel lucky and happy with your life:
- Consciously choose happiness.
It is necessary that you assume happiness as a goal in your life because it is not something that happens randomly, it is a state that needs to be cultivated day after day so that it becomes a reality. It is not enough to think “I want to be happy” and do nothing to achieve it, much less continue to maintain habits, situations, relationships that lead to unhappiness.
Therefore, to achieve happiness it is necessary to get involved and assume a commitment and put into practice behaviors and attitudes that lead to it, this means taking advantage of the opportunities that present themselves to you, being willing to live fully each moment and striving to develop those skills that they really satisfy you.
Choosing happiness implies, above all, being willing to embark on the path that leads to it. Remember this: happiness is not a destination, it is a path.
- Accept and manage all emotions.
Happiness is not always enjoying the good things in life, it is also about knowing how to face adversities, accepting, managing and learning to overcome everything unpleasant that comes your way, since it is impossible to try to live only with emotions pleasant since negative emotions are part of life and are as natural and necessary as joy, happiness and well-being. By accepting unpleasant emotions, you will be able to open up to enjoy positivity and joy.
- Practice resilience.
Happiness depends on your mental state, specifically it will be determined by what you focus on and on the attributions of success or failure. The perception of failure as an ‘opportunity’ has a lot to do with resilience, a concept that has become very popular with the crisis, which describes a person’s ability to face adverse circumstances, difficult living conditions, or potentially traumatic situations, and recover by leaving stronger and with more resources.
- Live in the present
If you spend your life thinking about the past, you waste time because what happened cannot be changed. Looking back is helpful when you extract meaning and learning that is useful to you in the present, but when looking back becomes an emotional drag, that’s when your happiness suffers. Focus on the needs of the present instead of generating ruminative thoughts about the past.
But you will also have to be careful not to worry too much about the future because this can lead you to create expectations that can cause you unnecessary suffering, all while your life is going on in the present moment.
- Stop looking for happiness and live it.
When you become obsessed with the search for happiness, you get the opposite effect, that is, unhappiness, and it is important to keep in mind that one of the keys to being happy is to stop looking for happiness as if you were looking for a treasure. This constant search can generate anxiety , anguish and low tolerance for frustration if you don’t get what you want immediately. Happiness is not moments, despite having unhappy moments you can make an assessment of your life in general and feel that you are satisfied with it and that is happiness.
- Rediscover the value of small things.
Happiness is linked to the little things, to feeling good and finding meaning in life. When you learn to value every detail, you realize that to be happy you don’t need much, just appreciate what you already have. That is the way to happiness, to love the small pleasures of everyday life.
But without them you may not succeed, so with them and knowing that improving your happiness is in your hand, if you still do not succeed, perhaps you should look deeper to find the problem that prevents you, that is where I can accompany you and guide you until you achieve it so that, in a short time, you begin to see the changes you are looking for and how your happiness increases
HOW DOES HAPPINESS INFLUENCE HEALTH AND HOW DOES PSYCHOLOGY HELP YOU?
Happiness is key to both physical and mental health . There is increasing awareness of the close link and interdependent relationship between health and happiness. That is, happy people have greater longevity and experience better health, but why is this?
On the one hand, happiness encourages personal care behaviors such as a good diet and physical exercise. In addition, the effects of happiness on the body are multiple: mood improves, immune system functions are enhanced, calmness increases and anxiety and stress decrease , pain is reduced, heart rate drops, and it even slows down. the aging.
But you already know that, although there is no recipe to be happy that works for all people, what I propose in this blog are tips that can lead you to discover your happiness, but it is also true that without them it may be that you don’t get it, so with them and knowing that improving your happiness is in your hand, if you still don’t get it, maybe you should look deeper to find the problem that prevents you, that’s where I can accompany you and guide you until you achieve it so that, in a short time, you begin to see the changes you are looking for and how your happiness increases
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