By sending their children to beauty contests, parents want to solve their problems related to the assessment of their children. How much the children themselves need it is a question.
Therefore, it is necessary to separate the problems of children from those of their parents. And here it turns out that adults solve their problems with the help of children. In particular, psychological problems. Secondly, I have already given an interview in the media about the injury inflicted by participation in television competitions, in particular, related to vocals. About how the so-called megalomania, star fever, arises, and the child begins to assess himself inadequately, hence he is no longer capable of his development, to the fact that it is necessary to “push” the study, there is a mental state that interferes with his development. Therefore, before participating in competitions and giving a child a high rating in society, it is necessary for parents to understand a little how he will perceive this glory, how it will affect his mental state and at the same time, his development. Because there is childhood star fever
At the same time, an optimal assessment is needed, low self-esteem is also not good. Therefore, if such contests are held, then it is necessary to conduct them in such a way that the child does not stop developing, does not change as a person, so that he does not turn into one that does not have the motivation for learning, communication, the format of communication that was previously achieved. That is, sometimes the child seems to have been replaced – he turns into a kind of monster who already communicates with his parents with strong pathos, it’s just funny sometimes to see.
Beauty contests are contests aimed at assessing a person as an individual. Not as a person with her soul, talent, abilities, but as with natural, first of all, forms. The natural form is sold by various professions – artists, actors, including prostitutes. Therefore, here it is necessary to accept such a truth that for a child to participate in beauty contests, when he is evaluated not for talent, but for what kind of individual he is – what features he has, what kind of look he has, what legs, what beauty he has, etc. .d. – I think participation in such competitions is dangerous. Girls can participate in such contests, but here, too, not everything is so unambiguous – it has been proven that a girl’s participation in such contests speaks of her underdevelopment. Conducting a competition among children to see which of them is more beautiful will not develop a child. But to arrange contests for which of them is more talented, smarter, in art, science, sports – that’s another matter. And organizing contests about who has the prettier something is a dangerous topic. You have to be careful here.
The desire to see your child the most beautiful is a mother’s problem. She wants to report to someone that she gave birth to the most beautiful daughter, that she has an achievement in the form of a beautiful person. In its depth, these are mom’s problems. Let me give you an example: if parents drag their child to a music school in order for their child to become a famous musician, they solve their problem. And if a child goes there because he is so passionate about music that he asks for it, he cannot live without it, this is a different situation.
And this sphere of beauty contests is generally unclear what it has to do with. This is a very controversial criterion for talent. A child, the author of whose beauty is Nature-God, and the work of the organizer of this competition, the trainer who prepares him. What kind of child has to do with his success? Another question – there are very often added some components in the competition, related to how the child sings, does something, speaks, reads, etc. I am always ironic about this. Because a child who sings well – can he win, what kind of beauty contest is it then? Therefore, all kinds of additional numbers are just a disguise, so as not to be criticized for the fact that the beauty pageant is dangerous for children.
Therefore, I believe that beauty contests can be held only among women, and then among mature ones who have an objective attitude. Girls, women who have reached a certain status in society, while managing to be beautiful, yes, this is strong. The rest – among children, guys – all this is very controversial, and I would say, destructive.
Sometimes some parents need psychocorrection, psychological work, counseling, personal correction, because they solve their psychological problems with the help of children, and children become victims. There are such statistics, any psychologist will confirm, especially when a parent brings his child to an appointment, and the whole problem is in that adult, parent. This is a well-known phenomenon.
It turns out, on the one hand, there are parents who suffer from certain psychological problems, which they solve with the help of their children. On the other hand, there are “psychotherapists” who arrange psychotherapy for them in the form of these contests. It turns out that money is the result of the manipulation of the psychological problem of the parents. Ultimately, the goal is not to develop children, but to earn money for someone, and moreover, to satisfy some needs in solving psychological problems of parents. Children remain outside, they don’t get theirs, only, on the one hand, the organizers who earn money, and the parents, who solve their psychological problems through the fact that their children participate in these competitions, get it. And the child often does not understand why he was harnessed to this competition.
If a small child is overly keen on his appearance, and this becomes a profession, the activity of his life, and not study, not everything else is a problem, this is not normal. If a child has put his appearance, his beauty as the basis of his activity, his development, his values - this is abnormal, it is necessary to bring such a child into the office.
