According to a survey conducted by the US Center for Sexual Health, only 18% of women need penetration to achieve orgasm. Much more often, respondents enjoyed stimulation of the clitoral head. But even in this case, you can achieve orgasm with penetrative sex. The “Bridge” technique can help with this. We tell you what it is and how to practice it alone and with a partner.
Why Women Orgasm More Often From External Stimulation
The thing is that the clitoris is responsible for female orgasms . Only part of the organ is located outside – the head. This is the most sensitive area, and it is physically more convenient to caress it, so it is easier to get an orgasm from external stimulation.
The remaining parts – the legs and bulbs – are located inside the body on both sides of the vagina. They are the source of pleasure during penetrative sex. However, this area is more difficult to stimulate, so an orgasm is not always achieved this way. In this case, the “Bridge” technique can help.
The technique is based on the theory of psychiatrist and sexologist Helen Kaplan. She believed that our brain can adapt to receive an orgasm from different effects on the clitoris. That is, if you train, you can gradually learn to receive pleasure from internal, and not just external stimulation.
How to Practice the Bridge Technique
Masturbating with hands
It is better to start the practice with masturbation without a partner. According to a study by American scientists, women have an easier time achieving orgasm when alone, as it is easier for them to relax. In addition, they already know how to masturbate in a way that will definitely give them pleasure.
First, you need to take a comfortable position and start caressing the head of the clitoris. At the same time, with the other hand, you need to make penetrating movements into the vagina. As orgasm approaches, you need to stop stimulating the head of the clitoris, but continue to caress yourself from the inside.
You need to bring yourself to a pre-orgasmic state, stopping at the last moment to affect the head of the clitoris, several times. This way the brain will switch to the sensation from external to internal stimulation. The orgasm may not be so bright or it may not happen at all at first. This is normal – you can try the technique several times.
Masturbating with sex toys
The “Bridge” technique can be mastered with the help of sex toys. For example, stimulate the head of the clitoris with your hands, and use a vibrator for penetration. It can be left off, simulating penetrative sex, or you can turn on the vibration. It is advisable to use lubricants with gadgets to make penetration more comfortable.
In addition to a regular vibrator, you can try rabbit vibrators – gadgets with two branches. During masturbation with such a sex toy, a small branch acts on the clitoris from the outside. It can vibrate or stimulate the head with air pressure. The second, larger part of the toy should be inserted into the vagina. When practicing the “Bridge” technique, at the right moment you can turn off external stimulation or bend the branch, and act only on the inner part of the clitoris.
When buying a rabbit vibrator, you need to consider its characteristics. The same toy may not suit everyone, since women have different distances between the clitoris and vagina. To choose a gadget for yourself, it is better to measure this distance in advance. The clitoral appendage of the device should be approximately the same length.
Having sex with a partner
If you have managed to achieve orgasm alone, you can try the “Bridge” technique with a partner. The woman or partner stimulates the head of the clitoris with a hand or a vibrator, and a few seconds before orgasm, you need to move on to penetrative sex. As in the case of masturbation, you may not achieve orgasm immediately, so you can practice the technique several times. You can also change the types of stimulation. For example, at first your partner can perform cunnilingus on you , and at the last moment bring you to orgasm with his hands.
If you still can’t achieve orgasm from penetration with the “Bridge,” that’s okay. Perhaps the technique just doesn’t work for you. Some women can achieve orgasm only from external stimulation of the clitoris. However, if you’re still worried about this, you can consult a sexologist or sex therapist.