One lie has the potential to break years of hard-earned trust, and lying to your partner regularly will surely bring your relationship down. If you value your partner and continue to be dishonest about your feelings and actions, then your only options are to either stop this chain of lies or end the relationship itself. If you prefer the former, then these eight ways may help you to end this harmful habit or tendency:
1. Trust and Believe in Your Partner
This might sound like a strange suggestion since you are the one who is lying, but sometimes people lie because they don’t trust the person they are lying to. For example, you might lie about your true feelings towards your partner’s family because you are afraid that he / she will immediately reject what you say and will automatically side with those close to them. You could also be lying about yourself because you don’t trust your partner enough to tell them the truth about your troubled past. Whatever her reactions, you have to trust and believe – because without it you can never be truly honest and your relationship will never have a firm footing.
2. Be Trustworthy
Of course, you cannot learn to trust your partner if you are not trustworthy. After all, it’s not far from saying that the main reason people lie is because they’re hiding something immoral or indecent. If you don’t want to lie about your partner’s cheating, never get into an affair. If you don’t want to lie about spending your joint savings on casinos, then don’t waste your money gambling. It’s that simple. By being trustworthy, you prevent the problem from existing!
3. Count to five and tell the truth!
Now if you have ever done something wrong like cheating on your partner then you have to count to five and tell the truth! The five-second countdown is long enough to prepare you for the moment but short enough to keep you from overthinking and backing away. You’ve done something wrong, and the least you can do to make up for it is admit it to your partner. The more you hide the truth and the more you deny, the longer the problem will last and the harsher the consequences will be. So before it’s too late, count to five and tell the truth!
4. Practice Open Communication
To be truly honest with each other, you and your partner must constantly practice open communication. If you tell her what you think and feel and she does the same, then you will understand each other and become more comfortable with each other, thus lessening the stress of hiding things and lying. It is only when you communicate that your relationship truly becomes a true partnership, free from the shackles of deception and apprehension.
5. Empathize With Your Partner
If you find yourself constantly lying to your partner, imagine the opposite. How would you feel when you find out the truth? You would feel betrayed, disrespected and in some extreme cases defiled, right? Of course, you wouldn’t want to be lied to and ridiculed. Use empathy as a sheath that prevents you from pulling the blade of lies against your partner!
6. Look for a partner who you really appreciate and love
This is more of a drastic step. If you find yourself constantly lying to your partner, without caring too much about the pain it might cause them, then maybe you don’t really appreciate or love them as much as you think you do, and they it’s time to responsibly end the relationship. Only then will the lie really stop. Spare yourself and him the trouble of living in constant lies, and look for someone who you really care about and care enough about not lying. However, before you sue a new person, please take note of everything provided here to avoid repeating the past.
7. Remove Constant Lying From Your Lifestyle
Even if you take the above into account and find someone you really like, if lying is already part of your lifestyle, you will most likely start lying again. After all, if you lie to people every day, then lying becomes a habit; it becomes a natural impulse where you become desensitized to its ill effects. Therefore, make a serious effort to eliminate constant lying from your daily life first. Doing this will not only help you become more honest in your relationship, but it will also make you a better person in general.
8. Know the difference between good and bad lies
Not all lies are inherently bad; there are some which, depending on the frequency of use and the situation, are acceptable. However, you should be able to clearly tell the difference to avoid mistaking a bad lie for a good one. An example of a good lie is when you say you enjoyed your partner’s cooking, even if it was a bit bitter, to show your appreciation and not make her feel bad about the food she took for hours. to prepare for you. Of course, in a situation like this, context is important. If she cooked for you because she wanted to surprise you, then it’s okay to say that you enjoyed the dish. However, if she wanted you to taste it because she is in a cooking contest or if she specifically told you to give honest feedback, then you should tell the truth. An example of a bad lie is to say that you had a late night office meeting while you had a late night romance. Whatever the context, this lie is never acceptable. Therefore, you need to avoid bad lies and exercise caution when doing good ones.
Trust is an essential ingredient in any lasting relationship, and lying is the arch enemy of trust. Therefore, it is essential that you and your partner do everything you can to avoid corrupting your relationship with lying.