First dates are rarely perfect. But there are a few things that can make a dinner date go horribly wrong! We’ve compiled a list of common mistakes that can ruin even the most promising encounter.
Order the most expensive things (or don’t order at all)
When ordering, stick to the golden mean: “I’ve already eaten at home” will make the same negative impression as choosing the most expensive items. Food should not distract from the main goal of the event – communication. It is important to be on the same page: if a man plans to have a hearty dinner, and you – at most drink a non-alcoholic mojito, the probability of a successful date is close to zero. Therefore, it is better to discuss the format of the meeting in advance, so that neither hunger nor a hearty snack before the rendezvous spoil the romantic mood.
Come to your favorite place
It would seem that your favorite restaurant near your home is a great choice for a date: you feel comfortable and at ease there, the waiters remember your favorite dishes, and the bartender respectfully nods and winks when you meet. However, this can turn a romantic evening into a disaster. Your partner will probably notice your close connection with the establishment – you will involuntarily think about who else you came here with and why the bartender is like family to you. We recommend choosing a new place for both of you, an unfamiliar environment will unite you and save you from awkward moments.
Be frank
Religion and politics are, of course, not worth discussing, but this is far from the entire list of taboo topics for a first date. Feel free to add memories of your ex, details of your sex life, and your salary. Sometimes it’s hard to resist discussing your career, but when it comes to details, you can always joke that you’ll tell them on a second date. If you want it to happen, of course.
Criticize dishes
There is always a risk of ordering a dish that is not the most masterpiece, because even the best establishments can make a mistake. Naturally, you should not eat a fly in the soup – they will probably replace your portion without any problems. But we do not advise dictating a critical note to your gentleman after tasting: it may give the impression that you are unbearable in everyday life, since you are irritated by literally every little thing that is not done your way.
Drinking too much
Remember your limits. Sometimes, it is enough to drink just a little bit to lose control of yourself. Determine in advance where the line between relaxation and shame lies, and do not cross it under any circumstances, so as not to do stupid things. Moreover, you should not drink more than your partner: usually the minimum is enough.
Being rude to waiters
The manner of communication with service personnel says a lot about a person – watch your partner, and at the same time control yourself. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, you want to say everything that comes to mind, and the reason for this can be the most objective. But after such an episode, the chances of a repeat date are minimal: the man will suspect that you will address the same rude remarks to him.
Order for both
Never order for your companion, especially on the first date: you simply don’t know their preferences. You shouldn’t encourage your partner to order for you either – let each of you choose what they really like. Taking the initiative to order for two usually doesn’t lead to anything good. You won’t immediately figure out what exactly spoiled the impressions of the evening – persistence and ignoring your wishes or an unloved dish.
Discuss the score
Nothing kills romance more than discussions about who will pay for what. In order to feel confident and calm and enjoy the conversation without obsessive thoughts about the moment of payment, it is better to have some money with you just in case. The suitor took on the payment – great. He offered to split the bill – you can get out of the situation. Alas, even the code phrase “I invite you” in our time does not always mean a willingness to pay for both.