Finding that special one, that one and only one, isn’t easy, but dating apps and sites make it much easier. We figured out what you shouldn’t do if you want your first date not to be your last, or at least to happen!
Underestimate the first message
The worst way to make an acquaintance is to write a lonely “hello” and hope for mutual interest and a detailed answer. If you are looking for a serious relationship, flirting and complimenting is also not the best idea to start with. After studying the profile, try to find a reason for a meaningful and relatively neutral question – for example, about the potential chosen one’s hobbies or, in extreme cases, about his profession. Firstly, he will understand that you are interested in him, and secondly, the conversation will be relaxed for both. What can you not expect after a message like “Hi, handsome!”
Publish the best photo
The last thing you want to do on your first date is become the “expectation vs. reality” meme, and to avoid that, it’s best not to chase a spectacular photo. It’s worth acknowledging that people rarely look exactly the same in real life as they do in their best photos. If you can do it, great. However, if you don’t have such a superpower, avoid taking photos where you look like a superstar in the spotlight and don’t look very realistic in general. Post cute, everyday photos — these will guarantee that your first meeting won’t be a disappointment.
Trust the filters
The capabilities of algorithms and artificial intelligence are impressive, but programs still cannot comprehend the human soul. Who said that a fabulous romance between a rocker and a lover of classical music is impossible? You should not rely on algorithms in everything – if there is an opportunity for manual search, be sure to use it. Perhaps the profile of your betrothed does not know much about him. The element of chance and intuition cannot be excluded from the search for that one. You can not command the heart, and common interests do not guarantee sympathy.
Avoid paid services
We do not encourage you to aimlessly buy up subscriptions to dating sites and apps, but if you are mostly attacked by dubious gentlemen in every sense in the free segment and social networks, a premium account can become a kind of filter for solvent guys with a serious approach to business, no matter how mercantile it may sound. The number of spam pick-ups will decrease dramatically.
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Everything secret will come out sooner or later. And if it doesn’t, why waste time maintaining an illusory image? What’s the point of trying to impress a stranger you may never meet? If he likes homebodies and you’re an inveterate party girl for whom life without parties is simply unthinkable, the only right decision is to be yourself. Pretending will bring nothing at best, and at worst, it will ruin the relationship.
Skim profiles
Careful study of profiles, of course, takes more time, but you will save precious hours (and nerves) on useless correspondence. Do yourself a favor – read carefully. Do not invite allergy sufferers on a date if you have a house full of animals, do not respond to a profile from a city 5000 kilometers away, do not write to a man if disrespect for women is obvious from his description. In the long run, finding a partner will be much more effective.
Delay correspondence
We do not recommend falling into the trap of endless correspondence: after several successful rounds of online communication, you can call each other, and after a week of active correspondence, it is even more time to arrange a face-to-face date. Meeting in real life will help you quickly understand whether there is a spark between you. In addition, even simple things about a person are more interesting to hear in person than to read, and then come up with abstruse topics for a strained conversation. After all, in the chats, you have already told everything about yourself.
Sharing personal information with strangers
Until you personally verify that the cute stranger is a real person with adequate intentions, do not even think of sharing personal information: there are scammers on the Internet, and their methods are becoming more sophisticated every time. Perhaps there is a swindler hiding behind love at first sight, so do not rush to share personal information by which you can be identified: the exact address, the maiden name, which is often used to recover passwords, and so on. In addition, do not advertise your wealth and do not respond to requests for financial help. Just do not say that you seriously believe that an online acquaintance is the only person from whom an adult man can borrow money. At best, he will turn out to be a gigolo, and at worst, the communication will end soon after the funds are transferred