Waiting for planned sex may not be the most exciting situation, but that’s no reason to give up! It’s quite easy to reignite the fires of desire if you take the process into your own hands. Sometimes, literally. Here are some universal tricks that can help keep your libido on top.
Make a to-do list
Doesn’t sound too sexy, does it? However, the main enemy of a successful climax is stress and anxious thoughts. You won’t be able to focus on pleasure while you’re going over problem-solving options in your head. So before you make love, organize your thoughts with a simple pen and paper. Write down everything you’re afraid of forgetting and plan to do after sex – this will help you cope with anxiety.
Feel your body
Sometimes you may feel as if your body does not belong to you at all. Breathing exercises and walks in the fresh air without unnecessary distractions will help you come to your senses – listen not to the words in your favorite track, but to yourself. Engage all your senses – enjoy the aromas of a freshly mown lawn in the park and the texture of the objects around you, “turn on” your senses. You will need this skill very soon, won’t you? There is also an easier option – a massage. Ideally – erotic, from a loved one.
Go to the bathroom
Taking a bath will at least help relieve stress and relax, thus setting the right mood. And at most… here it is up to you to decide how relaxed you are. Some girls are satisfied with tart aroma candles to set the mood, while others are not ready to limit themselves to shower games and prefer to resort to waterproof sex toys. The obvious advantage of a bathroom is that it is a safe, closed space where no one will disturb you, regardless of your plans.
Refer to literature
Depending on your mood, libido can be stimulated by both scientific literature about sex and light fiction in the style of “50 Shades” with naive intimate scenes. Here everything is individual – if you are excited by court intrigues, leaf through a historical novel, and if you want real (well, almost) stories – you should go to a thematic forum. And if you really don’t feel like reading, you can review a selection of erotic scenes from movies.
Use your imagination
Chances are, you’ve had at least one unforgettable sexual episode in your life, memories of which will help your libido perk up. And if not, just give free rein to your imagination. The imagined situation doesn’t necessarily have to be realistic: if you secretly dream of being possessed by a celebrity backstage at a film awards, or imagine yourself as a mermaid, that’s okay. Fantasies are fantasies for a reason: they have nothing to do with reality. Alternatively, you can imagine in detail the upcoming romantic encounter.
Try yoga
Doing yoga or meditation can help you tune into your desires better, and also warm up properly before sex. Any practice that focuses on movement and breathing is what you need for good sex. In addition, some yoga poses are great for strengthening the pelvic floor muscles and “getting your blood flowing” — which is half the battle in the process of arousal.
Take some photos
Taking sexy self-portraits for yourself is a great way to boost your self-esteem and body confidence, which is a prerequisite for arousal. Put on (or take off) lacy lingerie, notice what you like about your body, pose in sensual images, take a few erotic pictures. The main thing is to relax and enjoy the process of self-discovery. Just remember about privacy – if you want to share a photo with your partner, do not forget that the Internet remembers everything.