If you are not his first, you probably want to be at least the best and outshine all his exes. Fortunately, there are ways to determine by the behavior of the chosen one that he definitely loves you more.
Avoids comparisons
If your partner is happy with the relationship, he won’t openly compare you to your ex. You don’t need to understand psychology to guess how unpleasant this is, so why hurt your loved one? Speeches like “she didn’t do that” and “it was different with her” hint that at that moment the man would have made a choice not in your favor. If he really loves you more, he won’t humiliate you with inappropriate comparisons and will appreciate you for your strengths. If a guy really believes that his previous passion will give you a head start and doesn’t even try to hide it, you know where to send him.
Talks openly about the past
If your partner calmly answers your questions about the past, this is a good sign for the relationship. In this way, he demonstrates that he has nothing to hide and your future together is more important to him than a past affair that has long since depreciated. However, if talking about a previous experience is unpleasant for a man, perhaps it was traumatic. But if a guy avoids questions, ridicules your interest and answers ambiguously, you should think about it. Can you really trust him?
Introduced you to family and friends
Perhaps the most reliable sign of a healthy relationship is the mixing of lives. If he introduced you to his parents and friends and occasionally addresses you as his other half in front of acquaintances, congratulations: the man is serious. If you realized that you are an invisible girl to his circle, the prospects are unenviable: either he has not yet decided whether you are worthy of staying in his life for a long time, or he has already decided that the romance will be short-lived. Exceptions can be made for singles and those who, for example, have been in a long-standing conflict with their parents.
Doesn’t keep in touch with her
Of course, in rare cases, former lovers can remain friends. But if you are not ready to share your partner’s friendliness towards his ex, the choice for a man is obvious. Although rare small talk means nothing, unlike dubious hints. For example, laudatory comments under her latest photos on social networks are clearly too much, as are dirty jokes in correspondence. Any half-tones should alert you: it seems that your partner does not have enough communication with you, if he not only did not burn the bridges, but also appointed a painfully familiar “airfield” as a backup.
Relaxed when meeting
The world is small, sooner or later a situation may arise when you both meet his ex-partner. A good sign is his calm behavior. A person who is confident in his choice has no reason to be awkward, on the contrary, he will be happy to demonstrate that everything worked out for him as best as possible. If a guy lets go of your hand and keeps away, as if you are not a couple, ask him directly: is he ashamed of you or does he expect to get her back? In both cases, the relationship will not lead to anything good.
He confesses his love
For many men, confessing their love out loud is quite difficult, so if he does it for you, there is nothing to worry about. Especially if this has not happened in previous relationships. Finding out is not always easy: the question “Did you tell her that too?” is more likely to lead to a fight than to a heart-to-heart talk. For a frank conversation, you need the right moment. And sometimes open sources will come to the rescue, unless, of course, he has not cleaned up social media after the breakup.
Made you an offer
If he proposed to you on his own initiative, congratulations, his ex can only be envied. And you, definitely, win in comparison with her, at least in the eyes of your man. However, if he has several marriages behind him, there is no guarantee that this one will not end the same way as the previous ones. It is a good sign if the marriage is the first or he had good reasons for divorce from his ex-wife.