We all sometimes overlook the obvious and want to believe in the best. But sometimes it’s useful to finally notice the “red flags.” These seven phrases are a man’s way of saying “I don’t love you.”
“Do you think you’re the only one?”
Any hints that he can find someone better do not bode well. A truly loving man needs you, not another woman. If your partner does not see you as a person and an individual, but only as a set of convenient characteristics, there can be no talk of love. Threats of separation as manipulation, alas, also have nothing to do with a bright feeling.
“It’s not my problem”
Modernity has destroyed gender roles, a man is no longer necessarily a breadwinner who is allowed to lie on the couch all his free time. And a woman is not necessarily the sole housekeeper and is forced to cope with the role of the keeper of the hearth, having worked no less than her lover. And yet, even if your gentleman does not solve all your problems, indifference, a complete lack of support are incompatible with love.
“Your place is in the kitchen”
There is no situation in which this phrase ceases to be offensive. And all because it limits you to one single role – a cook. The man, apparently, denies you the right to participate in making important decisions that will affect both of you, and does not really take your opinion into account. Do you still think he loves you?
“Don’t interfere”
Rudeness in response to tenderness is a reason to think seriously. Were your kisses and hugs really inappropriate at the moment, or is there no right time for them at all? Romantic feelings imply a desire for physical intimacy, including; it is not for nothing that couples in love hold hands and hug constantly. If your man is uncomfortable with your touches without an obvious reason, he no longer loves you.
Who needs you except me?”
Of course, the abuser loves you in his own way. Or to be more precise, he likes that you depend on him, are ready to obey and give in to manipulation. Whatever the case, all this points to an unhealthy union that has little in common with a full-fledged relationship in which mutual respect reigns. Humiliation, even veiled by pseudo-care, cannot be forgiven. Value yourself and do not allow your feelings to be played with – they are not mutual.
“You don’t turn me on.”
Sex on one of your first dates will almost certainly be more vivid and memorable than it will be years later. Every couple faces difficulties, including in bed, and there are many ways to ignite passion without resorting to blaming your loved one. Let’s be honest: a loving man will do everything so that you do not take his “misfire” personally. A man who is able to say the phrase “you don’t excite me” is essentially saying that he does not love you, and it is not at all about appearance.
“I don’t have time for this, let’s do it some other time”
If a man is sometimes really tired to death and can’t talk, you can understand him – who hasn’t? But if the guy rejects all your worries and attempts to start a conversation with this vague phrase day after day, you have problems. When was the last time you had a full-fledged conversation? Not only does he show indifference to you, your chosen one also seems to not want to take responsibility for resolving the situation and is waiting for your patience to snap. Guess who he will blame for the breakup.