You may hate being alone. But there are at least seven reasons to appreciate this time in your life, no matter how hard it may sometimes seem.
The ability to not be afraid
We are afraid of the dark because we don’t know what’s in it. We are afraid of loneliness the more the less we know it. The opportunity to live independently and separately allows you to realize that you can have a great time on your own. Feel this, and your next relationship will take on a completely different meaning. The worst relationship scenario is being with someone just because you are afraid to be alone. A man can complement your life, but he should not define it.
Farewell to helplessness
Starting the washing machine, paying utility bills, hanging a picture, replanting a flower – even these basic tasks can be terrifying when you have the motto “I can’t do it”. Don’t rush to ask for help, you can do it! You just need a little effort and patience. The feeling of self-sufficiency is worth a lot.
Freedom of planning
Imagine being able to plan not just the next weekend, but your entire life, without taking anyone else into account. Perhaps you’ve long wanted to move to another city? Enroll in a new graduate program? Fly to a paradise island for a week? The freedom of planning will allow you to take risks and make dreams come true that you wouldn’t dare to do under other circumstances.
Strong friendship
Too often, lovers prefer to live in a “bubble” in which they rely solely on each other. Friends, of course, remain in your life, but spontaneous sleepovers, 24/7 communication and the readiness to support any crazy idea at the first call – the ease and drive inevitably go away. Solitude is an opportunity to strengthen social connections that will become your moral support more than once. Even if a romantic relationship soon comes (or returns) to your life.
The opportunity to know yourself
No matter how independent you are in a relationship, it is impossible to deny the influence of your other half. Loneliness gives you the opportunity to be one hundred percent yourself. Perhaps the main value of this state is the silence in which you hear your own thoughts. And the opportunity to experiment. Work the night shift, have steaks or green smoothies for breakfast, sign up for a gym – nothing will stop you from exploring your own capabilities.
Courage
Many people, having grown up, are still afraid of being alone with themselves. What does not seem to a person, who is used to being with someone, in an empty house. But to be afraid or not is your own choice. Sign up for self-defense courses if it will be easier to come to terms with the silence. The main thing is not to miss the opportunity to truly grow up.
Readiness for relationships and love
Oddly enough, being single can help you find love. When you learn to understand yourself, it will become obvious to you who exactly you want to be with. And being “not in a relationship” will allow you not to miss the moment with that special person. In the long run, this strategy is more likely to allow you to enjoy a happy life with your loved one than trying to replace your ex with the first “acceptable” option that comes alon