Most people feel calm and confident only when they are busy all the time. We are taught from childhood that it is bad to be idle. As a result, even when we have no serious activities, we immediately start looking for things to do on our own or skillfully imitate being busy. This gives us the feeling that we are not wasting time and not wasting our lives in vain.
Where does the energy go?
The magic question that saves you from unnecessary actions: “Why?” It is important to ask yourself this more often.
We can begin to ask ourselves regularly:
- “Why should I go there?”
- “Why should I date this person?”
- “Why should I hurry?”
- “Why should I discuss this topic?”
- “Why should I do this work?” etc.
We usually spend a lot of time and energy on pretending to be busy and fussy. But there are other things that eat up no less of our internal resources. One of them is worry.
Every one of us sometimes has troubles. It’s normal, no one is immune from them. However, all people overcome troubles differently. Some manage to ignore them completely. Perhaps these are some kind of super people with superpowers.
Some people worry a little, then try to solve the problem and, having done so, let it go. They no longer waste time or energy on it.
Most people prefer to savor troubles. We love to exaggerate any problem, often inventing emotional details about the situation that did not actually happen. This gives us a reason to worry even more. Then we happily immerse ourselves in our own helplessness and self-pity.
Let’s sum it up and formulate six simple rules that will help you stop wasting too much time and energy.
How to Stop Wasting Energy? 6 Rules
1. Stop fussing and pretending to be active. Ask yourself more often: “Why?”
2. When you encounter troubles, worry just a little, then try to solve the problem and forget about it.
3. Don’t savor or multiply your troubles by telling everyone about them. Get rid of this habit as quickly as possible. Find other topics to talk about with people. Leave the discussion of problems for conversations with a psychologist.
4. Leave the past in the past. No one is asking you to forget childhood grievances. Yes, they were there and they affected you. But! Childhood is already over! You can leave all the grievances behind and start rejoicing right now. At least because childhood grievances are in the past.
5. Limit your time on social networks. It is very pleasant to spend a lot of time there. Watch funny videos, etc. If you know that you spend a lot on this activity, start forcibly limiting yourself. Reduce the hours you spend on the Internet. Hold on, do not give in to temptations. You will succeed!
6. Think of useful, interesting activities for yourself. Include them in your daily schedule and do not skip them. You need to accustom yourself to living in joy, and gradually push all unpleasant experiences out of your life, replacing them with something positive.