Mistake 1. Playing hard to get for too long
On women’s forums, you can often read that a man is a hunter by nature, and every self-respecting woman should always be a little inaccessible: quick prey is not so desirable and interesting. In turn, many men remind that they are not hunters, but ordinary people who also have complexes, fears and worries. Sometimes for a young man to make the first step is not as easy as it seems from the outside, and in general, in a relationship, everyone is scared: both women and men.
How to avoid
It is extremely important for a man (especially at an early stage) to feel a reciprocal interest in his person. Few young people are ready to knock on closed doors for a long time and persistently wait until the object of their interest finally responds with at least some reciprocity. Girls, if you really like someone – do not be afraid to show it, try to take the initiative yourself and, please, do not overdo it with playing hard to get. The main thing in any business is a sense of proportion.
Mistake 2. Lack of faith in one’s own beauty
I often meet beautiful, decent girls who are very insecure . Perhaps this is due to the fact that everyone is used to comparing themselves to photo models on the covers of glossy magazines and friends from social networks, where it is customary to brag about achievements, and not to advertise failures. At the same time, I often see very mediocre individuals who idolize themselves so much that they make everyone around them believe in their own attractiveness. In relationships with men, it works in a similar way.
How to avoid
People believe what you yourself broadcast. You can’t constantly engage in public self-flagellation and talk to men only about your shortcomings and complexes: sooner or later they will believe it. Psychologists are not in vain always urge you to start with yourself.
Love yourself. Never speak or think badly of yourself.
Mistake 3. The desire to completely dissolve in a man
Some girls tend to dive into relationships with real fanaticism. They are literally obsessed with their men and their interests. Being together 24 hours a day is vital for such a girl, and existence without a young man turns out to be completely unbearable.
It is curious that with such a model of behavior girls inevitably fall into a trap. It would seem that men should be flattered by such attention. However, the lack of their own life, interests and friends for both the girl and the young man has a detrimental effect on any relationship.
How to avoid
People, regardless of gender, want to see an equal partner with their own opinion and life position. You had some kind of life before meeting your partner, right? Don’t forget about it: meet your friends and pursue your hobbies. And men also really appreciate and welcome women’s initiative. Don’t be shy about suggesting.
Mistake 4. Focusing on yourself and your career
It seems that this mistake is more often made by men. However, as practice shows, girls who are not limited to the role of a housewife and keeper of the hearth fall into this trap no less often. Career ambitions, a rich creative life, get-togethers with girlfriends – there can be many excuses for not showing up at home and not spending time with a loved one. Meanwhile, many men admit that they do not always feel needed, since their companions are quite fine without them.
How to avoid
We all want to be taken care of, our desires heard, and our presence in another person’s life valued. Of course, it is good for a girl to have her own life (see the previous point). But here, too, a measure is needed: often a woman’s fixation exclusively on her own life and her own goals does not allow her to build a healthy partnership.
Think beyond what’s important to you. Relationships are about “us,” not “me.”
Mistake 5. Concealing the girl’s grievances
Any, even the most beautiful human relationships can be ruined if there is no normal communication between people. Conflicts and misunderstandings in relationships are in some sense inevitable, this is a natural part of our life. Problems begin when girls practice long silences, do not voice their desires (including in sex ) and keep silent about their grievances.
How to avoid
As practice shows, it is better not to avoid conflicts, but to try to resolve them. The main thing is to give both sides the opportunity to speak out and be heard. Men do not always sense the half-tones and understand the hints that women love so much, and they definitely cannot read other people’s minds (no one can). Therefore, dear girls, if you don’t like something, say so. If you like it, say so too, men will be grateful.
Mistake 6: Talking about past relationships
Sometimes girls start talking about their past relationships not for the sake of any comparison with current men, but people are made that way: we inevitably start trying everything on ourselves. At the same time, awkwardness cannot be avoided in both cases: when former boyfriends are highly praised and when they are scolded. Disrespectful comments about past relationships make men think about why these relationships took place in the life of their beloved at all. Enthusiastic responses, on the contrary, raise suspicions that the girl’s heart is still occupied by the past man.
How to avoid
The recipe is simple: don’t talk about your ex-men too much. The less you know, the better you sleep. Live in the present, not the past.
