To stand up for yourself, you don’t have to make a scene. We’ll tell you how to emerge victorious from an unpleasant situation!
Give thanks
Instead of picking a fight with an unsolicited adviser and getting angry, you can gracefully get out of the situation with the help of standard words of gratitude. It is enough to answer with a short “thank you” to close the topic without unnecessary reasoning. If this is not enough, promise to think about what was said or answer that the opinion you heard seemed unusual to you. In general, a minimum of confrontation – nerves are more valuable than senseless conflicts.
Be interested
The first instinctive impulse is to respond to rudeness with rudeness, but it often happens that the interlocutor does not want to offend you at all, he simply does not know how to convey his thoughts about you in a correct form. And as a result, he expresses his concern in a specific way. Since he decided to share his experience, why not use this opportunity? Do not hide the fact that the remark has confused you a little, but at the same time show friendliness and curiosity – you are not obliged to obey someone else’s opinion, but it is often useful to look at the situation from the outside.
Translate into a joke
Let them know that you didn’t take the words seriously – laugh or at least smile. This will put the offender in an awkward position. If you continue to be annoyed, your sense of humor will come to the rescue again and confuse the advisor: try telling absolutely any joke that comes to mind. The whole absurdity of the situation will at least lift your spirits.
Stop
When a person comes to you with unsolicited advice, especially if you don’t know him at all, it would be appropriate to simply stop him. Don’t be shy about politely interrupting and asking a very appropriate question in this situation: “Excuse me, have we met?” Most often, this will be enough to get rid of the obsessive attention. In extreme cases, you will make a new acquaintance.
Please advise in response
You didn’t violate the other person’s personal boundaries, so you have every moral right to advise something like that in response. The main thing is to stay calm and not take this way of fighting back too seriously. However, you will be able to make it clear without unnecessary drama: pestering with unsolicited advice is not good. At the same time, the person will feel it himself