5 Signs You’re a Bad Mistress

Is good sex nothing more than a myth from romantic books and movies for you? Perhaps it’s not about your partner. Just don’t rush to get upset if one or more points are about you – everything can be easily fixed, the main thing is to take the situation into your own hands with knowledge of the matter.

You are easily distracted.

Good sex involves focusing on your own feelings and almost intuitive interaction with your partner, when you give in to your feelings and enjoy the process instead of thinking about every next move, or even the shopping list for tomorrow or work issues. If you can’t focus on the process, work on your concentration outside of bed. The ability to focus will come in handy not only in sex.

You are shy

It’s not just practice that can help you loosen up, but also conversations — discuss your preferences and sexual fantasies. It wouldn’t hurt to also compliment the connection you feel. A 2019 study found that anxiety during sexual activity can lead to premature ejaculation in about 25% of men and suppresses libido in an estimated 16% of women.

You have sex on a schedule

A clear schedule is a great alternative to no sex at all, and sometimes the only way to have a full intimate life with your partner. However, this approach will soon turn intimacy into a routine. By the way, a recent study showed that men tend to complain more often about boring sex in long-term relationships than women. To prevent marital duty from turning into a dull chore, add an element of improvisation to your planning. Some experts suggest telling your partner not a specific time and day of the week, but a time frame when you are likely to reciprocate.

Your partner is unhappy

In the long run, it is vital that both partners experience pleasure, otherwise sexual dissatisfaction can provoke conflicts and even infidelity. Make sure that there is a balance of interests – for example, if you prefer morning sex, and your partner is at the peak of sexual activity closer to night, it is advisable to find a third option that suits both of you. Otherwise, sex will always be a one-sided game with half-hearted strength: sex without desire is definitely a bad idea.

You hide your emotions

Hopefully, your man is educated enough to distinguish life from porn and not expect heart-rending moans and screams from you. However, a complete lack of emotion on your face raises suspicions about the sincerity of your motives and makes a man seriously doubt his own strength. If you are really indifferent to what is happening for some reason, try at least not to fall asleep during sex.