“In an ideal situation, the relationship between a man and a woman implies equality, but in practice, such a situation is rather a happy exception to the rule. Very often, one of the partners takes the position of a parent (“mommy” or “daddy”), as if deciding to take the other half into their care.
We don’t always see reality as it is, refusing to accept the obvious facts, so let’s check if you are accidentally a parent to your chosen one. Below are five signs of a dangerous substitution of a healthy relationship. How does a woman-mother behave?
1. She constantly controls him
Feminine care and total control over a partner are two different things. It’s one thing when you’re busy cooking dinner and making sure your man’s shirts are clean, and quite another when you start telling him what jacket to wear to work. Checking whether your chosen one has set the alarm and finished his porridge in the morning. This behavior is more like motherly and has nothing to do with adequate care.
Agree that, in part, you take this position, rather, out of your own convenience: to constantly keep your finger on the pulse and completely control your chosen on.
2. She controls all financial flows
There is nothing wrong with a woman earning more than her partner. Especially if the latter is not embarrassed by this situation. However, if you strive to completely dominate in all financial matters and deprive your man of the right to vote, this indicates an unhealthy relationship.
This position indicates that you either do not trust your other half at all, or you are so eager to take the position of “mommy” that you are ready to give your partner money to buy a pie in the cafeteria. In both cases, we are talking about inadequate relationship.
3. She counts her man among her children
Literally. If a woman has children, she says things like, “I fed them” or “I sent them out for a walk.” It seems, well, what could be dangerous in using such turns of speech?
In fact, it can. For example, that over time you will really stop perceiving your chosen one as a man. And he, too, will no longer see you as an attractive and seductive woman, but as a real “mommy”.
All this first happens on an unconscious level in both partners, and only then does it become clear why you have stopped being attracted to each other sexually. As is known, our body always resists so-called incest, even if your loved one calls you “mommy” as a joke.
4. She doesn’t trust her partner.
Whatever a man does, it’s all wrong. He made his bed incorrectly, heated up his dinner poorly, and screwed the cap on his toothpaste incorrectly. You don’t limit yourself to just a reminder and constant criticism, circling the house in search of new “screw-ups”.
This behavior speaks for itself. You are sure that your loved one is not able to cope with the simplest task, so you constantly complain: “Oh, he can’t do anything himself.” If you saw yourself in this behavior, then everything is right – you have become a “mommy”.
5. She takes full responsibility
And this is very sad. You take responsibility for everything, while your faithful is relaxing on the couch. And it would be fine if the current situation could be justified by the fact that you yourself decided to be a leader and commander in a skirt, but it also happens that you simply have to put things on your fragile shoulders because there is no one else to rely on.
By the way, before you blame a man for all the sins, think about it… Have you contributed to this situation yourself? Perhaps, unconsciously. If you constantly express mistrust of your partner and snatch the hammer from his hands, there is a risk of spoiling your faithful and reaping the fruits of your own actions.