There are so many events that require greetings. Birthdays, weddings, graduations and much more. These events do not only concern girlfriends and dear friends, but also a lot of dead weights that we carry around in life partly out of obligation and partly out of duty. The old aunt who calls us by our father’s name, colleagues to whom we barely say “good morning/good evening”, friends of friends of classmates.
It’s impossible to remember everything about everyone.
Thank God there is always the friend-agenda, which reminds you of your duties. The day after. So you find yourself making awkward calls, muttering half-hearted excuses and feeling like you are during an interrogation that you hope will end soon. It is wrong. We should have the decisive attitude of those who are doing the right thing at the right time. Here you will find the 4 good reasons to congratulate yourself every time you wish the birthday boy or girl the day after his birthday.
Authenticity
When we are the ones who have to receive greetings, we remember who sends them first, maybe the one who sends a message waking you up in the middle of the night. After that, there is only a long line of identical greetings to which we always respond with the same few words. But we remember the latecomers, those who arrive the next day. Why? Because in a world marked by the Facebook calendar, people’s authenticity is measured by their degree of freedom with respect to Mark Zuckerberg. The train of identical greetings that we receive on our birthday are a symptom of how much we have become just a Whatsapp contact. Authentic greetings, on the other hand, arrive late not because of forgetfulness or disinterest, but because affection needs to distinguish itself from cold courtesy in order to express itself.
Prolongation of pleasure
In words, we can say that our birthday sucks. In reality, it is difficult not to feel a sense of satisfaction when we receive greetings. They are like cuddles, with the advantage of not having to give something on Valentine’s Day to the person who sends them to you. But at the end of the day we feel empty. Precisely because half of those greetings arrived more out of courtesy, than out of real interest, the day after our birthday we return to the anonymity in which we live 364 days a year. Those who send us belated greetings prolong the pleasure of being the center of attention for a moment longer. And that is already a beautiful gift.
Stress test
The more years pass, the more I realize that friendships turn into empty formulas held together by glasses of beer. Those who forget our birthday do us a kind of disservice. It is a very important test for our relationship with the forgetful person in question. If we take it seriously, calling into question the entire friendship, it will mean that we have really reduced ourselves to basing a relationship on appearances. How sad. If, on the other hand, we are able to take full advantage of the delay, we are faced with friendships destined to last over time. Even until old age, when Alzheimer’s will finally provide a valid excuse to forget birthdays.
Interest
What is the difference between a punctual greeting and a late one? The time available. In the first case, you risk ending up in the middle of the birthday party of the person being celebrated or having sex with the girlfriend who, to celebrate the event, has finally decided to be a bit of a slut. They will be hasty and predictable greetings. The next day, however, there will be time to chat at length. Even more than we would like. Only the Swiss are convinced that interest in others is expressed with punctuality. You have to be a small population of obtuse economics graduates to confuse arriving-on-time with dedicating-time.