You’re probably frustrated that this COVID-19 has pushed you into an LDR. Well, it wasn’t just you who were prevented by the lockdown from seeing your honeypot.
They say that “absence makes the heart more loving.” Therefore, take this lockdown as a chance to strengthen your relationship. How? ‘Or’ What? Check out some of the easy ways.
1. Have faith in your relationship.
Distance isn’t the biggest problem that could challenge your relationship. Instead of worrying, believe that he can take a few weeks or months of not being physically together.
2. Trust your partner more than ever.
Without trust, your relationship will be fragile. For this reason, learn to trust your partner more. Avoid being paranoid that might sneak up behind your back.
3. Make an effort to communicate regularly.
As much as possible, keep in touch daily. With the availability of free Facebook and Messenger, communication has been made easier for LDRs.
4. Make your discussions engaging.
Whenever you speak, make sure that both are actively involved. When speaking, give your full attention and avoid distractions, like playing ML or scrolling through your news feed.
5. Avoid monotonous communication routines.
Under no. 4, Please avoid the usual expected messages, such as “Have you ever eaten?” , “What are you doing?” And “What time will you sleep?”. Find interesting topics to discuss.
6. Remember your memorable moments.
Stay in love as you return to your favorite memories together. For example, remember how you first met, who fell in love first, and what were your most romantic moments.
7. Express your appreciation.
Get in the habit of expressing your appreciation for each other. You need it more than ever to remind yourself of why you’ve chosen to stay together all this time.
8. Tag your partner in sweet messages or photos on social media.
I don’t encourage you to be so public about your relationship. However, doing it once in a while might help dispel paranoid thoughts. Some say that if your partner can’t post about you on social media, he / she may be protecting someone else’s feelings.
9. Stop overthinking.
Some LDR issues arise from unsubstantiated suspicion and jealousy. If every day you worried about being cheated on, you would find yourself stressed, scared, and even depressed. To avoid this, do not over analyze.
10. Agree on the limits and limits of your LDR.
If that can alleviate your concerns, set some boundaries while you are in this LDR. It can include timing your virtual baby time and how to deal with the opposite sex on cats.
11. Don’t ask for 24/7 updates.
Whether you are in an LDR or not, it is always unhealthy to demand hourly reports from each other. It might be embarrassing to report menial things like what you eat and the TV show you watch. You both need space and time to move around without having to think of someone else.
12. Exchange account passwords.
If it can give you peace, you can exchange account passwords. In this way, unnecessary suspicion will be avoided.
13. Check yourself against harassment.
Stop being paranoid and meticulous about possible third parties. Stop tracking down those who react or comment on your partner’s posts, or even their exes.
14. Avoid spending too much time on social media.
Being consistent on social media could make you more vulnerable to insecurities. It would make you compare your relationship with that of others. Also, it may tempt you to hunt down your or your partner’s ex.
15. Don’t control as much.
Avoid being so overbearing that you take away your partner’s freedom to decide for themselves. Also, instead of imposing what you want in the relationship, talk about it among yourselves.
16. Avoid being possessive.
Avoid being overly jealous and territorial. Do not forbid him to see or speak with his friends. Plus, stop looking at every opposite sex around your partner as a threat.
17. Stop being so focused on your relationship.
Don’t let your world revolve around your relationship. This could make one or both toxic and possessive. Soon every little thing would become a problem, like late responses and an hour of downtime.
18. Find individual hobbies.
To avoid focusing too much on the relationship, deal with other passions. Get a hobby that you enjoy and be sure to support each other. This way you will have new, interesting topics to discuss.
19. Don’t lie.
One lie, no matter how small, can break trust. If you want to keep your LDR strong, take care of your mutual trust.
20. Stop being suspicious of your partner.
If you still suspect your partner of cheating, then he really could. Constantly being accused of something that you don’t really do can be tiring. It might tempt you to just give in.
21. Be lenient.
It is normal to have misunderstandings, especially in an LDR. However, reconciliation will be easier and faster if both are ready to forgive immediately.
22. Take time to pray together.
Another way to strengthen your LDR is to grow spiritually together. It starts with setting a regular prayer time. It is up to you to decide if you will do this individually during this specific time, or if you will pray together. If it’s done together, you can do it by phone or video call.
23. Share your daily devotions.
Besides the prayer time, you can also share daily reflections on the Bible passages. You can do this before or after the prayer time. Studying the Word of God together and reminding each other to apply it will be helpful not only for your relationship but also for your personal growth.
Distance is no obstacle
Instead of seeing an LDR as a burden, take it positively. Use your time apart as a chance to grow as individuals and strengthen your relationship. If you can survive distance and time, future challenges will be easier for your relationship to overcome.
