They say that taking care of grandchildren can make grandparents live longer. Well that must be true, because being around energetic young children whom you love very much will make you feel good and happy. It means less stress and makes you feel young again.
If you want to improve your styles of grandparents, here are 15 ways to become a good and even the best grandparent.
1. Babysit your grandchildren from time to time.
If you want to activate the longevity benefit of being a grandparent, then you need more time with your grandchildren. To make this possible, offer to babysit them from time to time whenever their parents need to be away. As well as helping mom and dad avoid having a babysitter, you can bond more with the kids as well.
2. Respect the parenting styles of their parents.
Yes, you can give their parents tips and suggestions, but remember that every parenting style is different. So, don’t override their decisions on how they want to raise their children. Be there to guide them, but never impose your ways on them.
3. Visit them often.
To let your grandchildren know how much you appreciate them, take the time to visit them regularly. If you live nearby, you can visit them more often. Remember to bring them treats to make them miss more every time you are away.
4. Bring them in on weekends or school holidays.
Another way to bond with kids is to invite them over to your house every weekend or on long vacations, like summer vacation. Since you are more comfortable at home, you can do more for them without any hesitation, like baking them cookies or gardening them.
5. Play with them.
No one is too old for a good game. One way to bond with your grandchildren is to play with them. It could be a board game, their favorite sport, or whatever they like to play, as long as your knees allow it. You would want them to think of you as a cool grandpa or grandma.
6. Spoil them a little.
Grandparents are usually accused of spoiling their grandchildren. Well I guess it’s not that bad as long as you don’t overdo it. Pleasing them with their favorite ice cream or gifting them to a shopping spree sometimes won’t hurt.
7. Don’t tolerate their mistakes.
No matter how much you adore your grandchildren, never cover up their wrongs to keep them from being grounded by their parents. You might think you are doing them a favor now – and you would like them to think you are a hero – but in reality you are bringing them closer to dangers. If you truly love your grandchildren, help them be disciplined when they are young.
8. Have warm conversations with them.
Be the right kind of best friend that your grandkids need when they don’t agree. Allow them to be open with you by asking them how they are doing, listening to them without scolding, and sharing your own story. Be available whenever they need to talk to someone.
9. Don’t nag.
Kids don’t like it when their parents bully them – how much more if it’s their grandparents? If you want your grandchildren to love having you, then avoid harassing them. Remember, it’s their parents’ job to discipline them. If you want to correct them for something they’ve done, then talk to them without sounding like you’re the parent.
10. Respect the generation gap.
You might not like how your grandchildren wear their clothes or their hair or how they like to take selfies and post them on social media, but it’s their generation now. Scolding them for not following the old ways will only drive them away from you. Accept that children today have a culture of their own that is different from your time.
11. No reading of favorites.
Treat all your grandchildren the same to avoid jealousy and rivalry between them. Never buy a toy for just one child. Make sure that every time you give one of them everyone else gets the same. Also, give the same amount of time and attention to each of them.
12. Be silly with them.
Every grandchild loves a grandparent who jokes and laughs with them. Get rid of that rigid and strict image that is usually associated with being old. This will help them be closer to you and melt that generation barrier.
13. Don’t be too strict.
Under no. 12, Get rid of this super strict image if you want to be the coolest grandpa or grandma in the eyes of your grandchildren. Talk softly with them, join them in silly conversations, and don’t impose your own styles and principles on them.
14. Give timeless nuggets of wisdom.
The best legacy you can leave for your grandchildren is wisdom. Share with them the lessons you have learned from your experiences. Plus, you can give them tips and practical advice on how to deal with life issues as they grow older.
15. Pray for them.
The best you can do for your grandchildren is to pray for them always. In addition to praying for their health, safety, and meeting their needs, ask God to guide them as they grow. With all the calamities happening in the world, this world is becoming a dangerous place to live. In addition, morality is deteriorating rapidly too. Your prayers can help protect the future of these children.
Happy to be a grandparent
Some people hate the idea of becoming a grandparent because it reminds them that they are getting old. However, if you think about it, not everyone is fortunate enough to grow old. Therefore, be thankful that you can see the children or your children.
As some research claims, taking care of grandchildren can help grandparents live longer. Well, I hope you will enjoy many years of watching them grow up.