Are you wondering if it’s over between you or not? Most likely, it is, because your intuition can tell you what your heart is not yet ready to hear. However, any relationship has its ups and downs – it would be wrong to panic every time something goes wrong. Therefore, the following 15 signs should help you soberly assess the situation.
This can be either a banal betrayal or a treacherous “stab in the back” – if, for example, the partner “gone” at a time when you desperately needed him. In any case, the person has shown his true face, and it is no longer possible to forget him.
2. YOU NO LONGER TRUST YOUR PARTNER
There may not have been a blatant betrayal, but there have been too many lies, broken promises, attempts to manipulate , and all of this, like rust, has gradually corroded your trust.
3. THE EMOTIONAL CONNECTION BETWEEN YOU HAS DISAPPEARED.
Do you want to genuinely care, delve into each other’s problems to help? Or do you not care what your partner is going through? Or even worse, do you only think about how to use each other for your own interests?
4. YOU ARE NOT ON THE SAME WAVELENGTH WITH YOUR PARTNER
Do you still want to share your thoughts, feelings, good and bad news , hopes, dreams, fears and worries with each other? Or do you learn more about each other during arguments or from social media posts?
. THERE IS NO RESPECT IN THE RELATIONSHIP
You constantly criticize each other, often share intimate information about your relationships with other people, and make important decisions without consulting each other.
6. YOU ARE OFFENDED BY YOUR PARTNER
Resentment tends to accumulate, and at some point you begin to feel that it has crossed a critical point.
7. NEITHER OF YOU WANTS TO INVEST IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Without constant joint efforts there is no development or prosperity.
8. YOU ALWAYS SWEEP EVERYTHING UNDER THE RUG
If you constantly avoid difficult, unpleasant conversations and pretend that problems do not exist, then this “carpet” will sooner or later simply burst.
9. THINKING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER MAKES YOU SUFFER
Your body knows best – if everything associated with this person makes you irritated, tired, weak, or even gives you a stomach ache, then there is a reason for it.
10. YOU ARE NO LONGER A PRIORITY FOR EACH OTHER
Something else is a priority – money, career, social status, some other person outside your relationship.
11. YOUR THOUGHTS ARE NOT ABOUT YOUR PARTNER
If your thoughts are occupied by an ex-lover , an attractive colleague, or someone you met on a trip, then this is a bad sign.
12. YOU NO LONGER WANT YOUR PARTNER TO HAVE THE BEST OF EVERYTHING
Instead of being a team and working for each other’s happiness, you envy, are jealous, compete, or try to control each other.
13. YOUR PARTNER’S GOALS ARE DIFFERENT FROM YOURS
Of course, no two people can have exactly the same life goals, but if you’re a couple, they should at least overlap somewhat.
14. YOU DON’T SEE A FUTURE TOGETHER
The future, of course, is impossible to predict, but if you stay together, then in any future scenario you should, in theory, stay together.
15. ONE OF YOU TRIED TO LEAVE
This sounds very obvious, but it often happens in relationships that one partner threatens to leave or even actually leaves only for the other to ask them to stay. Perhaps you should avoid this vicious cycle and instead of trying to stop or get your partner back, let them do it already.
Let us repeat: listen to your intuition. If it tells you that the relationship has come to an end, then you need to have an honest and direct conversation with your partner as soon as possible, bring to light everything that you may have been hiding from each other, talk through all the grievances and misunderstandings. See how you both react to such frank communication, whether you have a sincere mutual interest in each other’s happiness, in staying together.
If all you see is a withdrawal of responsibility, mutual accusations, gaslighting and other manipulations, then you already have the answer to the question of whether such a relationship is worth maintaining. Every day you spend with the wrong person is a day you could spend with the right one.