If the man you like doesn’t tell you directly that he’s interested or even more interested in you, it can be very difficult to know how he really feels.
Yeah ! You don’t read his thoughts.
And, since nowadays everyone seems to have taken the side of “I love you but I don’t tell you!”, You find yourself forced to look for the telltale signs of their feelings. A needle in a haystack!
Apparently, showing your emotions clearly and confessing your true feelings is not common. Modern love seems to have completely different characteristics.
Before, it was women who played it hard to seduce. But now it’s the men! They use various strategies in order to confuse and disrupt us. So their behaviors can be very difficult to decipher.
Does he like me? Is he playing with me?
We’ve all asked ourselves these questions at one point or another.
So, to help you understand if your man is really attracted to you, I have prepared a list of the fifteen contrintuitive methods that these gentlemen use to secretly say “I like you”.
Some are quite well-known but others can leave you perplexed. Let’s take a look at these strategies which can be very confusing.
Men’s Favorite Ways to Say “I Love You” Without Saying These Words
Not everyone is comfortable with expressing their feelings. Some even get nervous just saying out loud that they like someone. Others like to play cat and mouse.
And, even if you think this game is only for women, I can assure you that men too use this strategy to tell their partner that they are interested without revealing too much.
So here are the 15 most common methods men prefer to hide their feelings .
Read also: How to recognize the body language of a man in love?
1. He initiates the conversation.
In a bar, at a party with mutual friends or in any other context, he will approach you and start chatting. He will talk about anything and everything just to get your attention and if this first contact goes well, it will encourage him to become a little more personal and to ask more intimate questions.
Moreover, to know if he likes you, observe his reaction during the blanks of your conversation.
If he’s trying to find new topics to talk about and similar new points you might have, he really wants to spend more time with you.
If he doesn’t furnish the blanks, he may be trying to give you the opportunity to start a discussion on a new topic. Or, he tries to please see as much as he likes you. On the other hand, if he leaves, the message is clear: you have nothing in common. Sorry !
2. Your suitor talks about what you have in common.
Initially, it will measure the temperature. He will ask questions and try to find common ground. Once that’s done, you can be sure that if he’s interested in you, he’ll use your every similarity in every one of your conversations.
This or these common interests is his way of quietly learning more about you.
So your discussion can start with your simple taste for red wine and end with much more personal and intimate subjects.
If he is wise and intelligent, he can know everything from the simple idea that you have one or more things in common. Moreover, the fact that he tries to find you a similar center of interest is proof in itself of his attraction.
3. He is caring and attentive.
If he is trying to find out more about you it is because he is clearly preparing the ground for your common potential future.
Well, yes… Your suitor is fully aware that all the information you give him will be useful to him later, during your next meetings or when he chooses a gift to give you.
In addition to listening, if he likes you, he will be protective. You are dear to him and he wants you to feel safe as if he were the knight serving who came to save his damsel from possible danger.
On the one hand, it makes him feel like he’s useful and on the other hand, it’s his subtle way of telling you that he will always be there for you.
4. Your suitor asks you questions about your love life.
At first, you might ask yourself, “What’s wrong with him? Why is he asking me questions about my love life? ” Then you may tell yourself that he is sincerely interested in your conquests.
But, we … He’s just testing the waters. He tries to find out if you are free and if he has his chances with you. If you are single, jackpot! He will be able to use one of the following methods to let you know he likes you.
On the other hand, if you are in a relationship, he will continue to ask you questions. He will want to know about his “opponent”. He might even try to see a photo to compare himself to him.
In any case, if he likes you, he will try to make you understand that he is better than your exes or your current boyfriend.
5. He is very polite.
If he likes you, he will do everything possible to show himself in his best light. He will behave like a real gentleman, he will respect the safety distances and the limits that you seem to put him.
Moreover, at the start, it will not be insistent or too personal. Eventually, he will be what his parents might call, “A lovely, kind man”.
By adopting this attitude, he tries to make you understand that if you give him the opportunity to be your boyfriend, he will treat you better than all your exes and even better than your friends. He will be worthy of you and give you everything you really deserve.
And, if that isn’t a clear sign that he’s crazy about you, I don’t know what it is!
6. Your suitor keeps his promises.
Let’s take a simple example: you planned to see each other for a drink the following Saturday. On Friday evening, you receive a message, your man wants to check if you are still available and if you have not forgotten your little one-on-one.
Why ? If he likes you, he wants to make sure he doesn’t miss any opportunity to see you and have a good time with you. He never cancels your romantic dates at the last moment and does not pretend to have forgotten what you said to yourself.
If you go on a date with a man who sets you a specific date and time, you can be sure he likes you. On the other hand, if he is vague about your next tête-à-tête or if he just says “See you again soon”, you can be sure that soon will never happen. If he’s interested in you, he’ll want to make sure that you reserve a time slot on your calendar so he doesn’t miss an opportunity to see you.
7. He gives you compliments.
This method is ultra subtle. So, as both sexes like to play inaccessible (let’s find out why…), your suitor will give you as many compliments as possible.
Why ? Because for some reason it’s easier for him than just admitting that you are attractive. He does not want to be direct so he fumbles with his compliments.
Certainly, it would be much easier and simpler to say clearly, “I like you and I want to be with you”, but he prefers to say to you, “You are beautiful tonight” or “This dress suits you very well. ”.
Again, if he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t make the effort to weigh his words and come up with compliments that will make you blush.
8. Your suitor sends you messages like this… for nothing!
He has no real valid reason to write to you, yet you get a message from him. He wishes you a good night, ask how you are or how was your day.
If he does that, he’s clearly drawn to you. After all, men aren’t known for their responsiveness when it comes to texting. They don’t even send messages to their friends if they don’t have anything concrete to say.
So texting you adorable is his way of reconnecting with you. Granted, it’s a little effort, but it counts.
He stepped out of his comfort zone to be the first to start your conversation because he doesn’t know how to really tell you that he misses you and wants to talk with you.
9. And, he uses emojis!
Men don’t use emojis! It’s almost written in their DNA.
Apart from those that represent pizza, beer, or a soccer game, emojis are unfamiliar territory to them. On the other hand, if you like your suitor, he will not hesitate to add this little symbol at the end of his messages.
Besides, if his friends knew, they would surely laugh at him.
But, it’s his more or less hidden way of flirting with you and telling you that he is interested not only in you but also in your conversations and your romantic dates . Clearly he’s a little confused by which method to use to seduce you but the spirit is there!
10. He follows and likes your posts.
As soon as you post something on social media, they’ll at least hit the like button . It’s his way of telling you that he is thinking of you even though you are physically separated at this precise moment.
Some men go even further to show the object of their affection that they are interested. They will openly post compliments under the photos of this woman.
So, if you see that your suitor is following your posts and being active on your account, you can be sure that he is only thinking about one thing: you! Nothing subtle about it but it’s a pretty effective method of making you understand that he wants to go further and get to know you more.
11. He teases you.
We’re not talking about the kind of schoolyard jokes where your friends tell you, “He’s pulling your hair because he likes you!”
No, he teases you in a fun and flirty way. For example, if he knows your favorite team, he’ll tease you when she loses.
This kind of attitude allows her not only to flirt with you but also to have a good reason to talk to you without clearly saying, “I like you”.
It’s also his way of testing your responsiveness and sense of humor. And, if he does that it’s because he clearly sees a potential future with you. After all, no one wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t know how to laugh or have fun.
Saying “I love you” might not be something he feels comfortable with, but jokes are his way of subtly conveying the message.
12. Your suitor is bragging but not too much …
He wants to impress you! So he puts forward his strengths and successes. He talks about his successful projects, his travels and his interests. Of course, this ground can quickly become slippery.
If he brags too much and becomes Mister I know everything or Mister I am perfect , he is simply egocentric and needs an audience that will adore and congratulate him.
On the other hand, if he’s boasting without sounding arrogant, you have to take that for what it really is: a way of showing yourself that he is worthy of you. He wants to impress you the most so that you are more attracted to him.
Basically, he just needs you to recognize his qualities and tell him that you like him as much as he likes you.
13. He spends money.
If he likes you, he’ll spend the money. Of course, some men don’t hesitate to offer a drink or two to a girl they just met at a bar. They do this mainly to attract attention and maybe wrap up for the evening.
But, if your suitor covers all of your expenses for the whole evening, clearly he thinks that you are much more than a passing lady in his life.
Besides, if he pays for your dinner when you go out together, you can really consider yourself a couple with him.
You hold it by the heart, the c ******* and the wallet. No man is going to spend a lot of money on a woman he doesn’t like or isn’t considering anything serious with.
So also expect to receive small gifts and attentions that are not innocent.
14. He makes sexual allusions.
After all, he’s a man! If talking about sex allows him to conclude, he won’t hesitate. Of course, if he’s too insistent or if his allusions aren’t subtle, you have to go your way.
In this case, he is only looking for a one-night stand. But, if your suitor talks about sex once or twice during the evening, he’s just testing the waters.
He makes dirty jokes to see if you’re on the same page on this subject. And, he wouldn’t do that if he didn’t like you.
Indeed, if he was only looking for a one-night stand, he would immediately move on if his first sexual approach had not convinced you.
But, if he stays with you even after not having received anything from you, not even a little kiss, after his first allusion, it means that he is simply preparing the ground for your possible future antics.
15. When you are together, his body naturally comes closer to yours.
This last point is less a strategic method than an involuntary and unconscious act. If he likes you, he will instinctively lean towards you.
Why ? Because he feels the need to be close to you in order to create a real emotional connection. In addition to that, it will be very tactile. If he’s genuinely interested in you, he won’t be able to help touching you.
Of course, he won’t do anything improper. But, he will tenderly stroke your shoulder when you speak or replace a lock of hair that seems to do as he pleases.
