People are so diverse that sometimes you end up with someone so opposed to you. Sometimes personality differences are the reasons relationships don’t last. However, if you know how to relate to each other, yours can thrive.
What if you had this very sensitive partner? If you’re an outgoing and outgoing person, being around someone who easily takes offense can be intimidating. You have to be aware of your words and actions all the time, otherwise you might end the day without speaking.
So how do you deal with a sensitive partner? Here are 14 ways:
1. Get to know your partner’s likes and dislikes.
The first thing you need to avoid triggering your partner is to get to know them better. Knowing your partner like the back of your hand would make it easier for you to stop hurting their feelings. Start by discovering their likes and dislikes.
2. Discover his language of love.
Aside from his likes and dislikes, it is best to familiarize yourself with your partner’s love language. Is it time, service, giving, touching, or appreciation? Knowing it will help you get to your weak point, especially when you have a romantic quarrel.
If you don’t know much about love languages, you can google it or read a book.
3. Familiarize yourself with his body language.
In addition to love languages, learning your partner’s body language can also be helpful. By simply observing his / her actions, you can tell when he / she is uncomfortable with something. You can immediately change the conversation, get him out of your house, or ask him what’s wrong.
4. Put yourself in his shoe.
Unless you understand your partner, it would be easy to get upset with their personality. One way to deal with this is to try to understand the person better. Whenever he / she starts to be sensitive, try to see where he / she is coming from.
5. Be careful with your words.
Sensitive people are immediately hurt or offended. They take jokes seriously and tend to over-analyze even non-malicious statements. For this reason, be careful when throwing puns and avoid sarcasm.
6. Say “sorry” immediately.
If you know you’ve hurt your partner’s feelings, even unintentionally, sincerely apologize. Instead of being defensive and trying to come out honestly, you better be humble. Be the first to say “sorry” and admit that you have been callous.
Once he feels better, you can start talking about the misunderstanding.
7. Don’t repeat the same mistakes.
If you know your partner is emotionally affected by some of your actions, be careful not to redo them. For example, if you know that he / she gets hurt easily every time you raise your voice at him / her, be careful next time. Try not to lose control whenever you have misunderstandings or have a personal problem.
8. Extend your patience.
Getting angry with your partner every time they are offended by anything doesn’t help. It would only make the person in his skin worse. It can be boring sometimes, but do your best to be patient with your partner. Be a little more understanding.
9. Give it some space.
Whenever your partner is emotional about something, don’t try to shake them up. Avoid nagging and telling him / her that the problem is so lame and that he / she is in OA. Instead, just give your partner time to calm down and think about the situation for themselves.
10. Expose your partner to your world.
Your partner is probably an introvert, which could be the reason why he / she is too sensitive. He’s probably not used to mingling with people, receiving jokes and constructive criticism.
One way to help your partner is to introduce them to different types of people. It might be uncomfortable for him / her at first, but soon he / she will become familiar with socialization.
11. Do not force him to change immediately.
Pressuring your partner to stop being sensitive wouldn’t help, especially threatening them with a breakup. Change doesn’t happen overnight. It can only stress him out and even lead to depression. People who are depressed may be more sensitive.
12. Let your partner open up.
There could be a reason behind your partner’s behavior. Perhaps opening up about it can help her relax. For this to happen, you need to let your partner feel like you are trustworthy and that you really care about them.
13. Make it clear to your partner that the relationship is not just about him / her.
Of course, as a loving partner, you have to help your lover overcome their weakness. It starts with gently shattering the truth – which sometimes you need to understand. You both need to learn to adapt to each other’s needs.
This is where compromise comes in. As a couple, you must meet halfway. This will require you both to assess your behaviors and to make a conscious effort to change negative behaviors.
14. Agree to know yourself better.
In order for the two of you to be more patient and understanding, you need to grow together. It means you have to know yourself well. This will help you be sensitive to the feelings of your loved one.
If so far you only know about 50% of your partner’s life and character, make an effort to increase it. You both need to decide to spend more time together and be more involved in each other’s lives.
About growing together
If you want your relationship to be harmonious, you need to know how to deal with each other’s moods, flaws, and strengths. However, even if you’ve been with the person for years, there’s still a chance you still don’t know each other.
In order to get to know yourself better, you have to give time and effort consistently. It’s not an easy process, but if you stick to it all, you can change and grow together.