All people want to find their own happiness. Many people are depressed because they are not happy and think that everyone else is so much happier than they are. The truth is that for most of us, life is often quite lukewarm – and that alone is a blessing in itself. Having a life that is lukewarm means that you do not live in misery in countries with disasters or that major accidents have affected you in other ways. The lukewarm life may be a little boring but our job as humans is to search more for the peaks in life and usually we do not see them until afterwards. The key is to make yourself more aware and become better at counting your blessings (count your blessings as the Americans say).
Then there are those who always seem to be unhappy and never find a peak. Many of them make the same mistake through life. Do you want to know what I think they are doing wrong – there are at least 12 things. Here they come.
1. They hate their jobs – and yet they stay.
Life is short and in Sweden we have enormous opportunities for both education and movement in the labor market. Of course, spending forty hours a week on something you can’t stand makes you unhappy. You not only take out the frustration at work but also at home. If you hate your job, you need to do something about it. Thats how it is. My own recipe is for you to start your own . I know, it’s not for everyone but it’s still the most exciting thing you can do.
2. They have poor finances.
Money only makes you happy to a certain level. Researchers have concluded that a salary of 45,000 a month is perfect for creating happiness. Then you have enough left over to be able to save and do things with the money instead of constantly worrying. Not everyone has a job that pays so well and there may be no prospect of being able to do it either. Then it is important to save long-term and ensure that there is a buffer behind it so that the worry about money does not gnaw holes in happiness.
3. They have no hobbies.
Being passionate about something outside of work brings happiness. Exercising, playing bowling, carpentry or sewing gives many a feeling of satisfaction that creates happiness.
4. They believe that stuff is the way to happiness .
You can buy happiness but it only applies to certain things. Unhappy people are constantly trying to fill the void inside by consuming. This can be alcohol, food or shopping. The problem is that happiness cannot be consumed – it comes from within.
5. They are alone .
Having good relationships is important for both health and happiness. Today, many people see their computer as their best friend. Some people manage their relationships via text message and none of these ways gives the real satisfaction that close relationships do. A family, close friends. Well-managed relationships bring happiness.
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6. They are fixated on what has happened or what is going to happen.
Life is what happens now. Anyone who lingers in the past or just worries about the future misses – Everything. Whatever has happened to you before, there is nothing you can do about it. You know nothing about the future. Live now.
7. They do not dream.
Unhappy people are grown-up realists, boring in other words. To dream about the future and opportunities and to work to realize dreams is really what I myself would have at the top of the list to be happy. There is nothing better than to slowly but surely get closer to the goal of your dreams. Such a dream can be to buy a house and renovate it, to get in shape, to take a motorcycle card or whatever – as long as you really want to achieve it. They do not know that you have to make an effort to be happy.
8. They are in bad shape.
Your health is your life. Take care of your health. Start exercising if you do not do it now. Moving around actually brings happiness.
9. They compare themselves with others.
Anyone who compares themselves to others – with neighbors, colleagues, brother or whoever it is – get rid of it. You are your own person and you really do not know a smack about how happy your neighbor is. You judge by what you see but everyone, ALL people have their problems and shortcomings to contend with. If you are going to compare with someone, compare yourself with yourself. Get a little better, get a little kinder, become a better person in the ways you want and you will be happier.
10. They are negative.
Many people get negative from their parents. Some of it is due to a few blows they received in life. Being negative about things and always believing the worst makes you unhappy. Review how you react to things.
11. They do not take responsibility for their lives.
There is no money that comes and fixes things for you. In Sweden, we often call for responsibility from others, but we rarely talk about the responsibility we have ourselves. You decide your own destiny in many ways. Stop whining about little things and do something about them instead.
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12. They do nothing that is fun.
Unhappy people take their lives very seriously. For them, play is not a dignified occupation. Responsibility responsibility and responsibility is the guideline. If you met yourself as a child – your child version would think you were a funny person that he / she would like to do things with.
Finally
Yes, what do you say – I know it’s hard as an adult with responsibility for lots of things to also have time to pursue happiness but seriously – what’s the point of everything if you do not?
