Everything seemed to be going well for you, and suddenly he disappears without explanation. What’s going on? Most often, the reason is his emotional isolation and inaccessibility.
You’re doing well in bed, but every time you invite him to go out with you and your friends, he says he’s busy? This is nothing more than a sign of emotional unavailability . “Such a man is like a visitor to a car dealership who only goes for test drives, but is in no hurry to buy anything,” explains psychologist-consultant and dating coach Samantha Burns.
Yes, it is not always easy to sort out our emotions, but when it comes to the person you love, you want to hope that they will always support you, just as you support them. If you fall in love with someone who is not ready for a serious relationship, you risk being left with a broken heart.
SIGNS
To avoid falling into this trap, you need to pay attention to signs of emotional coldness in your partner from the very beginning. So, here are 11 reasons to doubt that a man is in love with you.
1. He doesn’t talk about his feelings.
He never discusses personal topics with you : fears, weaknesses, dreams, goals. And he never confesses his love.
2. He only wants one thing (and it’s not love)
He achieves emotional intimacy through sex, not the other way around.
3. He says “I” instead of “we”
He always talks only about his plans for the future, thereby showing that he is not in the mood for a serious relationship.
4. He is not ready to spend time on you
He won’t change his plans to meet you. You’ll either have to accommodate him or cancel the date
5. You don’t feel like you’re important to him.
He is not shy about showing disdain for you – you are clearly not the most important thing in his life, and he does not hide it.
6. He doesn’t show his attitude towards you in front of others.
He doesn’t make an effort to “go out” with you or even just walk down the street holding hands.
7. He keeps his personal life a secret.
He is not very keen on meeting your friends and family and is in no hurry to introduce you to his.
8. He doesn’t try to please you.
He doesn’t try to please you. Usually, men in love invite you on dates, give compliments and gifts – even if it’s a cute trinket – without any reason.
9. He doesn’t care about your interests and hobbies
He is not ready to listen to stories about your hobbies or try to do something together that interests you.
10. He clearly doesn’t like your attempts to discuss a future together.
He is not ready to make plans together and stops your attempts to talk about this topic.
11. You feel like he’s ready to leave you at any moment
With him, you don’t have a sense of calm and confidence in the future. His actions are at odds with his words. No matter how beautiful his speeches are, they mean nothing.
ADVICE
Unfortunately, many women desperately cling to unpromising relationships with men who do not respect them, do not value them, and use them without planning anything serious. Ask yourself: do you need this person? Are you compromising your principles? Are you losing your self-respect? Does this relationship satisfy your needs and requirements?
“If you realize that your partner is cold and closed, first try to have a serious talk with him, explain what is bothering you. If he constantly avoids the conversation, it’s time to make a difficult decision and end the relationship. Stop being a “good girl” who is ready to wait forever until he finally “ripens” for something serious. This happens extremely rarely,” says Samantha Burns.