No, lack in itself is not something to be avoided at all costs. The truth is, if you are suffering today it is not because of the lack that you feel. Far from there.
We only really suffer when we try to resist the very idea that we are in a long distance relationship. A distance that we would find unfair, worthy of a curse and that we can legitimately hate .
However, not accepting your situation is the best advice to suffer in your relationship. And one of the best to lead to burnout and breakdown.
While it is complicated for two people who love each other to be apart, it does not mean the end of the world in any way.
You should rejoice in having in your life what millions of people are looking for: Love .
So in this article we will see 10 Ways to Get Better When You Miss Your Half Too Much , in order to channel this initially negative energy and redirect it to positive activities that are worthwhile.
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Contents
1. Feel the Love!
During these times of intense withdrawal, something special happens. We feel like an energy inside us that wants us to kiss and hug our other half.
Most people would tend to advise you to contain this energy. To repress it .
My advice is that you realize that it is basically neither good nor bad, but that you can prevent it from hurting you by using it correctly.
How? ‘Or’ What ? The next time you are overwhelmed by these negative feelings of withdrawal, try to think of them as positive feelings.
Lie down, close your eyes and feel this energy flowing through your body .
Let it go and enjoy the feeling. Keep your mind free from distractions and focus on your energy.
Then think and visualize your partner and your couple.
You might be suffering from lack, but you are now able to focus on the positives and your gratitude for things past and to come.
You feel the Love and that is all that matters. Smile, you are together .
(And for the more daring, you can try to go further …)
2. Tell Your Half About Your Lack
Talk to your partner about your miss, but don’t make it a habit either.
If you send her dozens of texts all day long saying “ I miss you …”, call her every 5 minutes and expect your other half to be constantly available and receptive, she will feel as overwhelmed and will doubt your ability to hold this type of relationship .
During a conversation by Skype or phone, broach the subject and your feelings.
Your partner may also feel an intense emotional deprivation. From there, you can decide to increase your frequency of conversation or even reunion .
3. Send him pictures
IF you can’t see your other half in person, at least you can see photos of her or both of you before.
Send him pictures of yourself, of what you do, of your discoveries or whatever comes to mind !
She will most likely do the same in return.
When the lack knocks on the door, one of the best tips not to get depressed is to take a look at your couple’s photo album (some apps make that very easy).
After a few minutes you already feel much better .
4. Go out with friends or family
It has always worked to have a sincere conversation with a friend or loved one , to address if necessary the lack you feel in your relationship.
It’s a great way to release tension, feel supported, and think about other things.
The lack in a married life is something relatively classic.
It’s a safe bet that your friends have been through more or less the same thing and understand your situation. They are therefore your best allies after your partner.
5. Write a letter or poem to your partner
Do you remember the positive energy I told you about earlier?
Well, you can also put it to good use in order to get over your feelings. This will allow you to:
- Relieve your pain and open your heart
- Create a unique or romantic gift for your other half
Poets have been doing it for centuries so why not you? They use their love and their suffering to write moving texts from the depths of their hearts and honor their muses.
Try it just once and you’ll see how easy it is to let the feather dance to those romantic thoughts without thinking for a second.
(Now you understand why 90% of the songs are about Love .)
Put everything in an envelope, send it to your partner and you’re done .
6. Create something for your partner
From experience I would say that the best time to create a little something for your other half is when you miss her the most .
As I mentioned just before, if you want to write a letter or a poem when you feel an intense lack, the words automatically line up on the sheet.
The great thing is that it also works for all the other activities involving creativity and your relationship.
If you want to draw something, make a video, edit, etc. it all looks so much easier and the results are amazing. Lack then becomes a kind of superpower that makes whatever you do for your partner easy and effortless.
Positivez and take advantage of this chance !
7. Allow yourself to be melancholy
What if it was okay to miss your boyfriend or girlfriend?
What if we allowed ourselves to be melancholy from time to time instead of being overwhelmed because we felt a little sad?
Wouldn’t that be great?
It is more than normal to think from time to time about the moments spent together in a nostalgic way.
And it is of course more than natural to release the pressure every now and then by letting go of your tears and crying afloat (whether you’re a girl or a guy).
I can guarantee you that you will feel much better after you have a good cry. So go ahead, it’s allowed .
8. Realize that separation will not last forever.
Another point to put into perspective is that of distance. Or rather the duration of this long distance relationship. Keep in mind that it won’t last.
One day or another, things will move and you can finally settle down with your partner at the best of times.
( And I won’t blame you if you stop consulting Amouradistance.fr ;).)
The ultimate goal of long distance relationships – ending the distance – is not a dream, fantasy, or anything woefully unrealizable .
It is indeed a common goal that will happen one day or another. Otherwise you wouldn’t be together, right?
Triumphing over distance is more than ever possible.
9. Brainstorm and find an opportunity to review him / her sooner!
Directly linked to the previous point, I recommend that you during your intense withdrawal phases take the opportunity to think about ways to find you both sooner than expected.
Can’t see you before next summer?
You would be surprised how much a few minutes of thinking can bring you dozens of ideas for visiting opportunities that you hadn’t thought of.
Think about the things you would like to do / see together.
Think about your respective calendars.
Then see with your partner whether it is feasible or not.
10. Take care
Last tip in this article and not the least. Here the trick is basic, but extremely effective.
It’s about focusing all your thoughts on something other than the lack you feel for your partner.
As long as you can stay focused on another topic (project, job, association, sport, music, books, movies, hobbies, etc.) you will be able to cope with this separation more easily.
Conclusion
By way of conclusion, I hope that you will take away from this article that the important thing is to consider the lack as an energy to be accepted and channeled, and not as an evil to be repressed or to be hated.
