It’s amazing how easy it is to forget the most important things. A busy schedule and weekly routine can cause your brain to go on autopilot. But some vital truths need repeating. Keep this list handy and read it whenever you need a boost.
1. To do does not mean to do
Look at the people around you. They are swamped with work – running from one meeting to another, firing off emails. And yet, how many of them are truly successful and have reached great heights?
Energy and agility do not lead to success. It comes with the ability to focus on what is important, with the confidence that time is spent effectively and usefully.
After all, the results of work are not equal to the efforts expended. It is more important that the efforts are directed at those tasks that will bring results.
2. Great success often begins with failure.
You will never know what true success is until you learn to accept failure . Mistakes pave the way to success by warning you when you have taken a wrong turn.
The right decision often appears at the moment when we lose faith in ourselves and fall apart. Despair makes us think differently, get out of our comfort zone and see the right path.
Success requires persistence and the ability to defend your views, even when they make you uncomfortable.
3. Fear is the main source of regret
When all is said and done, we begin to justify ourselves by saying that a missed opportunity would inevitably lead to failure. Don’t be afraid to take risks.
People often say, “What’s the worst thing that can happen to you? Will it kill you?” Death is not the worst thing that can happen. What’s worse is allowing yourself to fade away while you’re still alive.
4. You need to evaluate yourself independently
If you find joy and satisfaction in comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your destiny. But if the feeling of satisfaction comes from doing something well, don’t let other people’s opinions or achievements take that away from you.
When you can’t handle what people think of you, try not to compare yourself to others and take other people’s opinions with a grain of salt.
No matter what people think of you at any given moment, one thing is important: you will never be as good or as bad as they say about you.
5. A person is only as good as his surroundings.
Make sure you have people around you who inspire you and help you strive to be better. Chances are, you already do. But what about the people who drag you down? Do you allow them to be a part of your life?
Anyone who makes you feel worthless, anxious, or a waste of your time is probably influencing you. Life is too short to get involved with people like that. Break free.
6. Life is short
Nobody knows what will happen tomorrow. However, when someone dies suddenly, we begin to critically evaluate our own lives: what is really important, how we spend our time, how we treat other people.
Loss is a wound, a cruel reminder of the fragility of our lives. And it is true.
Remind yourself every morning when you wake up that life is a gift and you are lucky to have it. The moment you start living as if every day is a blessing, you will be happy.
7. You don’t need an apology to forgive.
Life will become calmer if you throw grievances out of your head and forgive them, even if the offenders did not think to apologize. Grievances from the past can destroy your happiness today. Hatred and anger are emotional parasites that prevent you from enjoying life.
Negative emotions, reinforced by grievances, lead to stress, and constant tension, in turn, destroys health. Prolonged stress contributes to increased blood pressure and the development of cardiovascular diseases.
When you forgive someone, it doesn’t mean you condone their actions – you just stop being a victim .
8. We live the life we create ourselves
You are not a victim of circumstances. No one can force you to make decisions and act in a way that is contrary to your values and goals.
Likewise, your future is entirely yours. If you feel dissatisfied, you are likely afraid to take the necessary risks to achieve your goals and realize your aspirations.
When it comes time to take action, remember that it is always better to be at the bottom of a ladder you want to climb than at the top of one you don’t want.
- You have to live in the present
You can’t see your full potential until you learn to live in the present . Guilt can’t change the past, and anxiety can’t change the future. It’s impossible to be happy if you’re always somewhere else, not here and now. You can’t fully experience this unique (good or bad) moment of life.
To live in the present, you need to do two things:
- Accept your past. If you are not at peace with your past, it will not let you go, and vice versa – it can help create the future.
- Accept the inevitability of the future. Worry has no place here and now. Mark Twain once said, “Worry is like paying a debt you haven’t yet incurred.”
- Change is inevitable – you have to come to terms with it
Only by embracing change can you see the good in it. Open your heart and square your shoulders if you are going to recognize and take advantage of the opportunities that change brings .
We are doomed to failure if we continue to do the same things as usual, hoping that if we ignore the changes, they will go away on their own.
It is insanity to do the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result.
Life doesn’t stop for anyone. When things are going well, it’s worth appreciating and enjoying them before they change. If you’re always looking for something more, something better, something that will make you happy, you’ll never be present enough to enjoy the great moments before they’re gone.