When a relationship ends, you may not expect to hear from your ex again. But there might come a day when he texts and then you wonder if this is a sign that your ex wants to get back together.
First, it’s worth pausing before you answer. You can tell—perhaps by his tone—that he’s bored, lonely, or struggling to move on. If he’s always managed to lure you back, it’s probably best to ignore him.
But there are times when past relationships can actually be successful in the future. It depends on many factors, including the reason for the breakup, how long it’s been, whether you’ve both grown and changed.
If you’re confused, here are subtle signs that he might be interested in rekindling an old romance. If you notice more of these signs, take the time to have a talk with your ex, evaluate your feelings, and move on.
Let’s get started:
1. Try to get to know you again.
Not every text from an ex automatically means they want to get back. But if he keeps texting you and you’re picking up relationship vibes from them, it could indicate something more. Look for quality communication, including signs that he’s trying to get to know you again.
2. He is attracted to you.
It is a good sign if he is the initiator of any communication, and also if he responds quickly to your messages – this indicates his sincere interest.
3. He shares what is going on in their lives.
If your ex is only texting because he’s alone on a Friday night, or if you’re just chatting about the weather or current events, it might not mean anything. But if your ex talks about his life—and it gets personal—he may try to rekindle a romantic relationship.
4. He asks about your love life.
While it’s pretty easy to tell if someone is in a relationship by looking at their social media, if your ex is interested in rekindling a relationship, they can continue to steer the conversation in that direction.
Therefore, be careful if they ask you questions about your personal life, as this is almost always a sign that they are trying to find out if you are single.
5. He acts jealous
If your ex just wants to be friends, he won’t get jealous when you mention all the dates you’ve been on lately. Rather, he will be happy and they will actually wish you well. But if they sound a little jealous or seem depressed, chances are they still have feelings for you—and maybe even hope for a reconciliation.
6. They keep remembering sweet memories.
If your ex finds ways to talk about fond memories from the past, this may be their way of dropping hints. Maybe he’s really interested in getting back together, but he’s afraid to make the first move.
7. Ask to discuss what happened
If your ex is interested in talking about what went wrong and why you broke up, it could mean one of two things: he’s either looking for solutions, or he’s looking for a way to figure out if it’s worth trying again and improving the relationship.
Maybe he is working on himself, wants to apologize for his behavior, or simply explain what is happening to them at that moment. However, their willingness to come together to discuss the breakup paves the way for healing.
8. Takes responsibility
An ex may take responsibility for their role in your breakup as a way to move on. But he can also do it if he values you and doesn’t want to lose you. You have to find out their intentions.
9. Ask mutual friends about you.
If your ex asks you how you’re doing and calls your friends for details, consider this another sign that he wants to get back together. But it can also be their way of checking how available you are.
10. Ask if they can share their thoughts about the breakup
This can be a good sign. This shows that he cares about your feelings, space, and boundaries and wants to make sure you’re ready to meet him there and maybe share some of your thoughts.
Asking for consent before starting a conversation about what happened between you shows that he respects your time and emotional space.