We are all looking for true love, but how do we know that we have found it? The following 10 points will bring clarity to this difficult question.
You use conflicts as an opportunity to understand each other.
Even the happiest couples inevitably have disagreements, and in fact, having conflicts is considered a healthy sign of commitment to the relationship. There is a huge difference between trying to pull the blanket over yourself and wanting to come to a common solution. It can be difficult to understand your partner, but almost every action has a logical explanation. First of all, it is important to get rid of destructive habits – such as not talking for several days, blaming instead of listening, calling names and humiliating when the opportunity arises. In a relationship full of love and mutual respect, partners understand that they need to fight the problem, not each other.
Being together is a desire for you, not a need.
One of the signs of true love is the understanding that your happiness does not depend on just one person. Time apart is just as important as time together. In other words, if he is your whole life, it is not a healthy relationship. Independence is a significant ingredient in the recipe for true love. Otherwise, it will be difficult to separate the desire to be together from the need. Make sure that you have your own desires, goals, and hobbies in addition to common ones. By the way, a common symptom of dependence is when you have nothing to talk about.
You are confident in the relationship and there is trust between you.
There is nothing more tiring than hypercontrol: it is impossible to live a full life if you have to constantly ask yourself where your partner is, who they communicate with and what they are hiding from you. Confidence in a relationship does not come from spying on your significant other, but from being ready to be vulnerable with each other. Emotional closeness creates an atmosphere of safety, you do not need to protect yourself from your loved one, all that remains is to relax and enjoy the time spent together.
Support each other in everything
Any relationship is, first and foremost, support, and romantic ones are no exception. It’s not so much about difficult periods in life, but about his willingness to become a fellow traveler in your most ambitious plans. Love allows you to accept you as you are. A loving person will do everything in his power to help his partner, will celebrate his successes and support him on the way to his goals.
You try for each other
You know what true love is when you’re willing to do a lot to make your partner happy. Doing doesn’t mean sacrificing (which is especially harmful when you weren’t asked to do it). Fulfilling small requests, helping with household chores, and simply being attentive will help to express warm feelings non-verbally. But words matter too! Research has shown that partners who regularly thank each other are much happier than others.
Faithful to each other
Cheating, as well as thoughts of intimacy on the side, is an alarm signal, no matter what the reason. Loyalty is a reliable indicator of true love. It is not about social morality – if you are unwaveringly devoted to your partner of your own free will, it means that you are satisfied with the relationship, you are not bored in it and the thought of doing something that will cause emotional pain does not even occur to you.
Accept the ups and downs
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, so there is no need to get upset over small problems. People inevitably experience bouts of irritation and boredom even towards their closest ones, and this is absolutely normal. A good sign is peace for your relationship even in the most unpleasant quarrels. Because you know: they will not lead to a breakup, your couple can survive any troubles.
You communicate freely
Free communication is a sign of openness to each other. You don’t need to weigh every word, look for a convenient time for an elementary conversation and justify yourself over trifles. Heart-to-heart talks not only contribute to emotional release, but also guarantee a high level of mutual understanding, because you are always aware of current events in your partner’s life, his emotions on this matter.
You are empathetic
It’s hard to imagine true love without empathy. Empathy allows you to share your partner’s feelings, no matter what they are. Just like in your wedding vows, through thick and thin, you stay together and share the happy and sad moments. A nice side effect of having developed empathy is the ability to better understand each other’s thoughts and emotions without having to say anything.
You can be yourself
Another sign of true love is the ability to be yourself, no matter what. You don’t have to pretend, adjust your interests and feelings, because you are sure that your partner will never judge you for who you are. Absolute acceptance of each other is a guarantee of a strong relationship. The main thing is to distinguish between acceptance and patience without a drop of love. If you are in danger, especially physical, there can be no talk of “acceptance”.