Because it is still a taboo subject, there is still a lot of misinformation about taking your own life. In this article, we’ll talk about the top 10 myths about suicide and how therapy can help.
The psychologist works so that the glass does not overflow. So that your patience doesn’t end. So that your despair is not greater. In addition, it also works so that you never read the farewell letter that your family member has already written.
This is called suicide prevention . Do you know how it works?
Start by preventing despair, hopelessness, helplessness and depression . That’s what the books say. Right. These are very important points for us to work on. But how do you do that?
In practice, the patient sends e-mail at dawn. Real-life patients arrive with rope marks around their necks or with their arms full of scars. Cut marks. I see there the various attempts to not be here anymore. Attempts to interrupt life appear when it already seems to be synonymous with suffering.
I started working with this theme in 2016. I worked every day in a scenario in which the smell of death hovered discreetly through the air. Only those who have felt that they could lose a patient know what it is.
This smell causes the patient to be partially disconnected from the universe. And I stay there trying to talk to him (a). It is difficult not only because of the smell, but because of the weight. The smell of death is heavy. It will contaminate everything nearby if you get distracted. So, I don’t get distracted. I concentrate.
I go there face to face with danger and take a deep breath of the smell of death. I make the patient realize that I can smell that smell. I am alert. And that, just as I put the air in, I will put it out. The same goes for the patient.
Just as suicidal ideation came into your head, it will come out one day. And I breathe the air of death as many times as necessary. I breathe until the patient understands that the air and our thoughts simply pass through us.
And they must pass. They must renew themselves. You need to breathe deeply and slowly until everything is calm.
Don’t be alone
It doesn’t always calm down. Death is very potent, it is true. She is scary minute by minute.
After all, death always catches us off guard. So, the way is to have someone there breathing together. Holding hands, hugging, talking, letting crying, trembling, choking. Blowing your nose can also. Blowing your nose helps ward off death.
The more one cries and blows his nose, the more the heavy air of death is expelled. Whoever blows his nose is because he still wants to live, still wants to breathe. Only those who want to have a renewed air blow their noses.
So, suicide prevention and blowing your nose is all about. After years of work in this area, I saw my arms cut off with roasted noses, but I never saw the lungs of any of my patients lose their ability to breathe.
This smell of death can be understood as a metaphor for talking about suicidal ideation or thoughts about death.
There is treatment for this desire to give up everything and for excess sadness, despair, loneliness, disappointment, frustration. There are scientific techniques that are able to relieve anguish, anxiety and suffering.
Psychotherapy promotes health, well-being and quality of life. Psychological guidance is capable of developing human potential to its fullest.
The 10 biggest suicide myths
The following are the top 10 myths about suicide.
- When someone survives the suicide attempt it is a sign that everything will be fine.
This is a big myth involving the topic, as the risks after a suicide attempt are not automatically reduced.
Many people make consecutive attempts over a short period of time. So keep your alertness and care if you live with someone who recently attempted suicide, as this is the biggest risk factor for suicide.
- After treatment, there is no risk of a new suicide attempt.
The risk of suicide must be monitored even after discharge from psychological and / or psychiatric treatment. If thoughts of death return, it is necessary to seek professional help as soon as possible, as it may be necessary to resume treatment.
- Child does not kill himself
Unfortunately, cases of child suicide do occur. However, they may be underreported, as the circumstances of death are not always evident, and suicide may be mistaken for an accident.
However, clinical practice demonstrates that children and adolescents may have suicidal ideation and need specialized care.
- Men and women use the same methods of suicide.
This myth demonstrates the complexity of the suicide phenomenon, as men and women often use different methods to end their lives. Men usually use hanging and firearms, while the option for poisoning / intoxication predominates among women.
- In Brazil, the number of suicides has been decreasing.
In recent years, the number of suicide attempts and deaths in the country has increased. Suicide prevention as a public health priority. Worldwide, suicide is the second leading cause of death for people aged 15 to 29, according to data from the World Health Organization.
- Talking about suicide induces people to kill themselves.
Contrary to what one might imagine, talking about suicide in a professional and well-organized way is an effective way to guide people and encourage them to find other ways to deal with their suffering.
- People who think about killing themselves are necessarily depressed.
Several circumstances can be related to a suicide attempt. Depression is usually present in many cases, but it is not the only risk factor.
Mood disorders such as bipolar disorder and abuse of legal substances (alcoholic beverages) and illicit drugs also have an important correlation with suicide attempts. However, there are also people who are not depressed and who try to kill themselves.
- Whoever thinks about killing himself is sad all the time.
This myth reflects a stereotyped view of people who have suicidal ideation, as sadness is not usually manifested constantly. Expressions of sadness can occur interspersed with expressions of anger, disgust, hopelessness and fear.
- I’ve never seen a case of suicide. This is far from me.
Suicide rates in Rio Grande do Sul are among the highest in the country. There are cities in the state with rates that are more than double the national average.
According to 2016 WHO data, it is still worth mentioning that 79% of suicides occurred in low and middle income countries – showing a clear warning sign for the importance of prevention campaigns.
- Smart people don’t kill themselves.
Intelligence is not able to prevent a suicide attempt in isolation. Smart people also need help when they are sad, desperate and hopeless.
After all, several suicides occur impulsively in the face of moments of high stress, such as health problems, financial difficulties and relationships.
The first step
Now that you have learned a lot about the importance of not suffering alone, you can take the first step towards improving yourself.
Offer professional psychological treatment to those who are suffering or seek this support for yourself. A first consultation will be enough for you to start overcoming the desire to give up everything.