1 psychotherapeutic theses about the child and Santa Claus

  1. The child develops on the basis of fairy tales, his perception, imagination is an objective process that cannot be canceled. The fact that we adults do not take seriously those worlds that once disappointed us is an adult problem. A child from birth is a creative creature, imagining, playing.
  2. Santa Claus is one of the components of the formation of a child’s worldview. There should always be a moment of mystery, otherwise it will be difficult for him to socialize and find joy in life. Exposing illusions is necessary when destructive development begins and resentments arise associated with not receiving a gift and a number of other reasons. Moreover, a child somewhere in the depths of his soul understands that Santa Claus does not exist, and just plays with adults. This is called game cooperation.
  3. By itself, Santa Claus is a kind of subject that solves a person’s problems when there is no other support. This is due to the despair of people, with their problems, dreams. The great ability that makes a person human is to form illusions, worlds. Animals do not have this. “Deception that elevates us” makes us human.
  4. It is not worth exposing the fairy-tale character, because then the child can become a victim of mental trauma, withdraw into himself, change his attitude towards parents and the world in a negative direction. However, sometimes it is still necessary to talk about the fact that Santa Claus is a non-existent wizard. This can be a new stage in the development of consciousness, psyche of the child. But this must be done very carefully and when the child is ready for this.
  5. The phenomenon of writing a letter is always relevant, and Santa Claus is not important here. From the point of view of psychology, any expression in the form of a picture or a letter is a serious psychotherapeutic process that develops a child. According to statistics, the children who did this recall that it was not so much the gift that was important to them as the creative, thought process.
  6. In the New Year, as well as in writing a letter, the process is important, and not the result that comes and is not recorded. People live by the values ​​of expectation, not the values ​​of getting results. If we look at the best that we have, we will see that it is associated with positive expectations, they are the main component of life.
  7. If a child believes in magic very strongly, believes that he can be given whatever he wants, this is a serious problem for parents, they need to think about where they made a mistake in raising a child. If a child thinks that Santa Claus can bring a gift without any problems, for example, for 150 thousand rubles, parents should seriously think about it.
  8. The gift conversation is a dialogue between parenting options and how children feel about it. I came to the conclusion that adults who bathed in a fairy tale in childhood, received expensive gifts for the New Year, grew up in parasites, unsuccessful and problem people. Usually, these people systematically parasitize on their parents, and the effect of Santa Claus continues throughout their lives.
  9. Dressing up parents or relatives as New Year’s wizards is a good intermediate option that brings the child back to reality. Let him understand that the gift has been bought, and Santa Claus is disguised. Let him know that all this is a performance, a theater, in which he also plays a role, turns into an artist, plunges into a magical world with his dad and mom.
  10. Each child needs a separate approach. There are times when children get scared when they see a wizard’s house. In his practice, there were such moments when the disguised parents greatly frightened their children, they shouted, shuddered and cried. Take a look at the film “Room and a half, or a Sentimental Journey to the Homeland”, based on the works and biography of the writer Joseph Brodsky. The father, dressed in Santa Claus, approaches his son’s bed, and he is very frightened. Then dad abruptly removes his beard, trying to calm his son.
  11. In addition, according to statistics, mothers are often Santa Clauses. It so happens that a single mother wants to please her child, or, for example, in a family, a husband does not want to dress up as a New Year’s wizard. I came to the conclusion that in families where mothers love their children so much that they even transform into such an image, there are problem children. You cannot serve children too much.

 

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